FutureMrsHadi
Dedicated August 2020

Adding Bridesmaid?

FutureMrsHadi, on November 4, 2019 at 5:34 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 7
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This might be kinda long lol but I could use some advice

So my FH's best friend and Best Man (we'll call him Kyle) has a long time girlfriend (we'll call her Katie) I had only hung out with Kyle and Katie a few times before they moved out of state and when FH and I got engaged I initially thought about asking Katie to be a bridesmaid and then changed my mind because I didn't know if we were close enough friends. We get along really well but just hadn't spent much time together at that point. In the past few months we have spent more time together (went on vacation and stayed with them, she's come back to visit a couple times, and they both flew out for our engagement party) and we've been talking pretty regularly. My question is: is it rude to ask her to be a bridesmaid after everyone else has already been asked? I really would like to have her in the party, but I don't want her to feel bad that she wasn't asked with everyone else.

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  • Sarah
    Devoted June 2020
    Sarah ·
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    I think it’s fine! Just be honest with her. Tell her that you feel you’ve grown closer over the last few months and that you wouldn’t feel right without her by your side on your big day!
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    It's generally considered rude to add someone to the bridal party after everyone else, however, I think these circumstances are different. It's not like you were close with her before and just suddenly decided to ask. If the relationship has naturally grown closer over time, I don't see the harm.

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  • Amber
    Rockstar February 2020
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    I agree with PP's. As long as you're not adding her for the wrong reasons, I don't see anything wrong with it! Honestly she might be flattered hearing that you feel like you've grown closer and you'd really like to have her as part of the bridal party Smiley smile

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  • Cher Horowitz
    Rockstar December 2019
    Cher Horowitz ·
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    I think it'll be fine to ask if she's interested in being a BM! I think she would be flattered and very touched

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  • Tara
    Super November 2016
    Tara ·
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    Not at all!!! It's completely fine to ask her to be in your bridal party now. In fact, if you've become closer to her and really would like her to be part of the wedding, ask her. You'll regret it if you don't. Just explain to her that since you guys have become so close you'd love to have her as one of your bridesmaids. I think she'd be honored!! I know I would be.

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  • FutureMrsHadi
    Dedicated August 2020
    FutureMrsHadi ·
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    Thank you all so much! I'm going to ask her this weekend when she visits! Smiley heart

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  • B
    Super July 2018
    Brittany ·
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    Its fine to ask her! Just be honest and say that you feel like your friendship has really grown so much closer and you can't imagine your day without her by your side!

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