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Lindsay
Just Said Yes September 2020

Adding a Co moh and in need of advice

Lindsay, on January 27, 2020 at 9:50 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 11
Hi All!


My MOH is a best friend of mine of 19 years, our relationship is very sisterly. While I love her she has been very uninvolved in the wedding process, which has been a bit hurtful. 6 years ago I had rekindled a friendship with my childhood best friend, someone I had known since I was 3. She has been my rock and cheering me on. I really want to add my childhood BFF as co maid of honor because she is a best friend of mine and I feel she deserves that honor aswell. I dont however want my current MOH to feel like anything is taken away from her. Please tell me your thoughts and advice! Thank you so much

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Latest activity by Rachael, on January 28, 2020 at 5:53 PM
  • Kristen
    Master November 2020
    Kristen ·
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    To me the bridesmaids arts the co mob and there to pick up any slack if needed. If anything I would have two maids of honors but how looping have they been the bridal party. Might seem awkward if you add her now.
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  • Lindsay
    Just Said Yes September 2020
    Lindsay ·
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    Thanks Kristen! I was wondering if it would be awkward. Does it make any difference considering she has always been in my wedding party? I just wanted to make her Co MOH
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  • Rachael
    Savvy April 2021
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    How long have the titles been delegated? My only sister ofcourse is my Maid of Honor but I also have two great friends whom are like sisters to me as well....they all have been there in a special way. So I made the other two Bridesmaids/ "honorary maids of honor ". It allows me to show them how special they are without taking anything away from my wonderful big sis💕. Also my sister lives out of town so have someone here to also help with tasks so great. If you explain it no one should take offense


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  • Kaitlyn
    Savvy April 2022
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    I plan on having my 2 best friends both be co MOH in my wedding and they're both fine with it.
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  • Kristen
    Master November 2020
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    You could do what you want but how long has the wedding party been picked? I ask because I think one of my friend wedding I was probably just a little bit more involved than the maid of honor but I think it's at the last minute she made me call maid of honor that would have given some red flag to the other maid of honor of why all the sudden I was being Co-op maid of honor you know? I think for your maid of honor it will definitely raise some questions. At the end of the day it's really just the title so maybe if you want to thank her a little bit more maybe give her a nicer thank you gift separately and just take her aside and tell her that even appreciate how much he has been so helpful in regards to your upcoming wedding.
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  • Melanie
    Dedicated April 2021
    Melanie ·
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    I asked a cousin to be a Co MOH when my best friend was being uninvolved too. And there’s no hard feelings both ways. I say put the people you need in your corner and don’t care what others think.
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  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I had two at my wedding and I don't think it takes away from their special roles
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  • Katelyn
    Devoted October 2020
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    I am having a maid of honor and a matron of honor - I have seen several weddings with two or more maids of honor. I think it's totally fine!

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  • Lindsay
    Just Said Yes September 2020
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    Thanks for the reply! I have had a really long engagement, just over 3 years so far. I asked my best friend to be my MOH immediately of course lol. My other friends shortly afterward. My best friend also moved 3 hours away and has had a child in that time so it has definitely taken more of her time as it should. But over those years I've gotten really close to my childhood BFF
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  • Rachael
    Savvy April 2021
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    I think you will be fine if you decide to make her a maid or honorary maid. At the end of the day it's your wedding and they are their to see you through it and make you happy. My girls have been so supportive I get emotional every time I think about it....and that's the way it should be. This is a time when everyone should come together in love because that's what it's all about. I say bump your bestie up to an Honorary Maid. But even without the title I know she will be there to pick up the slack no matter what.
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  • Rachael
    Savvy April 2021
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    Another bestie is also my matron and they are getting the job done together because they all love me and support me.... I also have other friends whom I consider sisters as bridesmaids...🤷🏾‍♀️ so hey
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