Adding a bridesmaid

I did this! I had my BP picked out and since we were aiming for smaller and my FH only has his best man, I decided against asking my third bridesmaid. But after some issues with my MOH, I realized I needed my third bridesmaid because I kept thinking of her and it didn’t feel right to not have her as one. I called her up and asked her, then sent her a formal proposal, this was a month ago and my wedding is next month. No hurt feelings and I feel so much more at ease, best decision!!!

I wouldn’t. You might not want her to feel like an afterthought but...she is, and she will know that.

My wedding is in May 2020 as well and I just started planning, so I haven’t asked any of mine yet. Does she already know you asked everybody else? If so, she might get hurt but I had my cousin ask me once after a friend of hers dropped out. I was a little hurt but also understood that she only wanted a certain number. Your family so hopefully she understands too.

I wouldn't either. I mean some people might be ok with it and don't see it as being an after thought but generally I feel like it comes off that way

I actually did this. My next door neighbor and I are extremely close but I didn't meet her until after I picked my girls. I went up to her and asked her and told her that she's been such a huge part of my life that I couldn't see getting married without her up there with me. She cried, I cried....

I did this! We wanted a small wedding party at first, but after a little time went by it just wasn’t sitting right not having her in it. I’m so happy I did! Your wedding is still far away, I think it’s totally appropriate and you should definitely ask her to be in it!

I mean if you didn't post anything (like pictures or what not) of your bridal party, I would ask. I'm also getting married in May 2020 and I asked my bridesmaids to be in the wedding at our engagement party, so I wouldn't ask anyone new because they were all their and got their gifts.

It depends! I asked my girls at different times and didn't have some facebook post or something going "Look at all my bridesmaids!" or start much planning, so if I had added someone they wouldn't have really known. So if there's none of that and you haven't been talking about your bridal party plans with her or much of anyone, I think you could had her just fine without her feeling like that.

I added a bridesmaid later on! My wedding was July 2018, I asked my bridesmaids between April-May 2017 (asked as I saw them) then added one on in Oct 2017. I think she was aware that I already asked some people but I asked with the same proposal gift I gave the other girls so I don't think she felt like an after thought because she didn't know when I asked the other girls. Overall she was excited and everything was fine!

I did this. I asked most of my bridesmaids last fall, but then realized i wanted to asked one more and i asked her this spring. I dont see her bery often so that was my excuse. I would just ask, not everyone knows you were done asking. I dont think it would he a big deal

Since you are still 10 months out, this is fine. There is no law that says all BM must be selected or announced at one time. It would be different if it was in the last 3 months. But this is early on in the usual time frame of announcing. Ask her.