Hello all!
This is half a rant, half a call for advice and "what would you do" regarding the children in our wedding.
My FH has 2 half sisters up in Portland, each with a young child (6 year old girl, 3 year old boy). We traveled there last spring and spent time with all of them - the kiddos are very sweet, love their uncle, and took a liking to me as well. Like any kid, they had their moments of being bratty or fussy, but are generally well behaved kids.
Months ago, the little boy's mom decided he may not be old enough/ready to be in the wedding, so the little girl would be our flower girl while the boy would attend as a guest with his parents. Simple enough. A few days ago, she informed us it may be upsetting for him to see his cousin be a part of the wedding while he isn't, so she asked if we can add him back into the wedding.
I know this is a small deal, but it was unexpected and has started to stress me out a little. My initial reaction was to simply have him walk down the aisle with his cousin, tossing petals down out of his own basket. This way she can show him what to do, etc. She and her mom will be at the rehearsal, but him and his parents are not able to make it.
I know a ring bearer is a common job for a young boy, but our rings will be with our officiant and I kind of don't understand the point of having the RB carry fake ones?
I honestly don't care about the logistics and specifics of everything - my main goal is just to keep everyone happy and smiling, and the ceremony disruption-free as possible. If you have ideas or things that worked for you, please let me know! Thanks for reading 
