Deborah
Savvy July 2021

Add off shoulder straps or not?

Deborah, on April 2, 2021 at 3:07 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 1 29
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Hi everyone! I’m getting into the home stretch here, my wedding is on July 11! I’d like to get your opinions on my dress. It came as a spaghetti strap and because it’s a heavy ballgown (and since I didn’t like the thin straps anyways), I got it altered to be thicker, I believe it’s ½ inch now. And I absolutely LOVE IT!!!!! (see pics below!!) But I also want to feel more princess-y, and I really like the idea of off-shoulder tulle to help with that look. I brought that up at my last fitting and my mom shot that idea down, saying that I shouldn’t have gotten the straps if I wanted that because “it’s either shoulder straps or off shoulder straps not both.” But I’ve been looking online and I think it would be super cute with both, I’m just not sure about it with how wide my straps are and I don’t want to go back to thin straps, and know I definitely do not want strapless with off-shoulder. I’m having another fitting in May with my sister (MOH) and another bridesmaid and will ask them what they think but I also value other brides’ opinions! I’m wondering if you lovely ladies think it would look good with the thick straps and off shoulder! So the pics below are my dress how it is, and a few pics of off shoulder styles (with and without straps) that I like. Please let me know what you think and if it would be a good addition or not because I can’t decide!


My dress (sorry for bad pics and my nasty hair lol)

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Off shoulder inspiration (w/ and w/o straps)


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29 Comments

Latest activity by Judith, on April 6, 2021 at 1:24 PM
  • Allison
    Devoted April 2021
    Allison ·
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    First of all, the dress is gorgeous and you look beautiful in it! I don't think your straps are too wide to look good with the off the shoulder look and think it will look really pretty with them. The dress is beautiful without them but in my opinion, it won't look bad if you add the off the shoulder. No matter what you decide you're going to look like a princess!

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  • April
    Dedicated September 2021
    April ·
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    The straps and off the shoulder would look really nice on that dress and it’s an amazing looking dress! My dress is just off the shoulder but I’m making those removable since I don’t trust myself not to rip them once the reception starts Smiley winking
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar October 2022
    Michelle ·
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    I think your dress is beautiful as is. You can add the shoulder drapes but it doesn't need them

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  • SHY
    Master January 2022
    SHY ·
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    How pretty!! Your dress wouldn't look bad with them! You could always ask if the seamstress could make the off the shoulder straps removable?

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  • L
    Lady ·
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    I love it as is!

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  • Aubrianna
    Dedicated January 2022
    Aubrianna ·
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    Dear Deborah,

    I just wanted to add my two cents: I think that you should do one or the other, not both though. If the bodice is enough to support the dress and keep it from slipping this would work well with off-the-shoulder straps. If I had to keep the existing straps in order to add off-the-shoulder ones, I wouldn't try changing it.

    Either way it's so beautiful and your silhouette looks amazing in it!

    Aubrianna Abbema

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  • Biaani
    Expert May 2021
    Biaani ·
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    That dress is gorgeous on you! Great choice. I think it would look beautiful both ways. I get you with wanting the princess feeling. Maybe your seamstress can just hold up tulle to your arms while you're wearing the dress so you can see what it would look like. If you like it then they can officially add it.

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  • Star
    Dedicated October 2019
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    I say go for it! 🥰🙌🏼 The dress will be gorgeous (& so will you! 😍) regardless. I just think in my opinion it adds an extra beautiful touch, that simultaneously shows some of your personality/creativity as well. Maybe make it to where you can easily add/remove them if you need to.
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  • Monique
    Expert June 2022
    Monique ·
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    Hi Congratulations on the up coming wedding day I think off the shoulder for the look that your looking for see it with your veil on and you'll see how it will come together. But whatever you choose you will look beautiful
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  • CountryBride
    Super April 2022
    CountryBride ·
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    I say no to the shoulder straps I like the dress as is
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  • Dj Tanner
    June 2021
    Dj Tanner ·
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    Yes to the shoulder straps! I think it will add a touch more of elegance and really bring out the elegance in the dress! You look amazing though! Good find!
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  • W
    Super September 2020
    Willow ·
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    You could also add a fluffed out cap sleeve or flutter sleeve that covers part of the straps. Pretty much that off the shoulder sleeve but sitting higher.
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  • Deborah
    Savvy July 2021
    Deborah ·
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    Princess is the ultimate goal 😂😂 thanks so much 🥰
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  • Deborah
    Savvy July 2021
    Deborah ·
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    I was thinking something similar with removable just in case, I’ll just have to see what they look like cause I wouldn’t want to spend the money for something I don’t use:/
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  • Deborah
    Savvy July 2021
    Deborah ·
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    Hopefully I’ll find a veil I like at my next fitting, if I decide to have one! That’s really good advice that I didn’t think about thank you!
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  • Deborah
    Savvy July 2021
    Deborah ·
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    Yeah I’d be worried about them ripping too but I also don’t know if I’d want to take them off and lose the vibe...just don’t know!
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  • Deborah
    Savvy July 2021
    Deborah ·
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    Yeah that’s what my mom said, and of course I love it as is!! I’ll just have to see what it might look like!Smiley smile
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  • Deborah
    Savvy July 2021
    Deborah ·
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    I’m going to David’s Bridal so I’m hoping they’ll have short lengths of tulle we can use to see, if not my friend has a veil she decided she doesn’t want and said I can cut it to see! That will be the only way to see if it works and I’m hoping I can figure it out
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  • Deborah
    Savvy July 2021
    Deborah ·
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    Oh that would be pretty! I’ll have to add that to my inspiration list and look for some ideas!
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  • Monique
    Expert June 2022
    Monique ·
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    You are so welcome let me know how it goes.
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