Activities to replace bouquet/garter toss

Honestly, as long as the music is good and the booze is flowing, i don't think people need structured entertainment. we're also not doing either of those things and we're not planning on adding anything else to replace them.

I agree with Christina, but some people do a dance to see what couple has been married the longest and they give that couple the bouquet.

I've never been a fan of games or activites at a wedding. i went to one where the DJ just did one hokey thing after another and everyone was mumbling about how they just wanted to eat, drink and dance. i think you are fine just skipping them. i think those types of things tend to take away oomph way more than they add it.

We did the shoe game and it went great -- got a lot of comments about how funny it was (just be clear about what is and isn't OK for the DJ to ask -- ours asked, in front of our parents, families and friends, who made more noise during sex, even though we waited until that night...sooooooo awkward for that moment, although he spun it well). We were going to do an anniversary dance but the toasts took way longer than we had anticipated so we scratched that. And instead of a bouquet toss, I had our DJ play the song from Brave and gave my mom my bouquet at the end of the toasts.

Just some thoughts...

My brother did a great replacement. Instead of garter/bouquet toss they had a dance. All the married couples were called to the dance floor. The DJ started by having the couples married less than a year sit down, then 5 years, ten years and so on. The couple that had been together the longest was left on the dance floor (my grandparents, 51 years!) I thought it was great to celebrate the married instead of potentially-getting married-sometime single people.

I'm definitely not doing a bouquet toss. I'm the oldest of all my friends getting married and it was embarrassing and I would always would "disappear." A 31 year old scrambling for a bouquet is not cute!

I hated the garter/bouquet toss. So we didn't do one either. We did do the anniversary dance, and the shoe game. But I didn't see those as replacements, cause we would have don't them anyway. I agree with the other ladies, you don't need to replace them.

I found out after that a guy was upset we didn't throw, cause he wanted his GF to catch the bouquet so he could propose. I was SUPER happy we skipped it then, so rude to propose at a wedding. It's MY day, darn it!

I've been trying to think of some things to do as well. Our wedding will be smaller and there will be very few people that would even dance, so I'm afraid it'll be very short.

I've not seen a couple do the shoe game (though I know how it works), but my cousin had an anniversary dance at her wedding. I suppose I just wonder if widows would feel left out?

We thought about having a caricature artist come, but she hasn't gotten back to me.

Woah Trena! I can't believe someone was even thinking of proposing at your wedding! I'm so glad that didn't happen to you, someone else's wedding is not place to propose...

We aren't doing those activities either, nor are we doing a formal cake cutting.

Like Jamie we are doing the anniversary dance (my DJ suggested it) and we are doing a wish lantern release, but that is also serving as the guests' favors. I don't think people will miss out, once you've been to a few weddings it gets old.