Accommodations for out of town family

Have you booked the venue? They may be able to offer some help on this one. Unfortunately you cannot force them out of the rooms they have booked even if it is rude for them to take the best rooms.

No, I don't think they should have asked you because they probably assumed the inn would only give them rooms that were still available. It's unfortunate you didn't reseve these rooms yourself. I don't see how it's not going to be an awkward or rude request to ask them to give up these rooms. Does the inn not have a bridal suite just for the bride and groom?

We are trying to work with family and the Inn. Yes, in hindsight we should have booked these rooms immediately, it just never occurred to us something like this would happen. My aunts knew we had not booked our rooms yet, so I am very hurt😓

I’m not going to tell you to not be hurt, but logistically this is on you and not them. Have a calm convo with them, or who ever their sister is can do so. Surely no one wants to ruin your wedding with petty room issues. A reasonable person would swap rooms for the bride. If they say no, well that’s unfortunate and if it were my mom I could see her telling them they were no longer invited 😂. This will all work itself out. In the mean time see if you can get a hotel block elsewhere, because your guests are clearly looking to book ASAP.

What do you mean by the “best” rooms? The whole inn only has two really good rooms? Are the ones your aunts booked really way better than the others? If not, I would just let it go. But if it’s really that important to you then I think you need to call them directly and tell them you made a mistake and were planning having those rooms but didn’t book them yet and tell them you’d really appreciate it if they could switch to another room.

View Quoted Comment I see this as being the inn's fault more than your aunts because the inn should have set aside the best rooms for you automatically. If I were your aunt I would also want their best room not realizing this meant it would deprive you. It seems strange there are only 2 "best" rooms.

Thanks for all the input. The Inn is very old fashioned and right on the water. They only have a few waterfront cottages...and those are where we expected to stay. There are some others that are water view, but we really wanted waterfront. My mom and I have always hoped to have my wedding here, so it's difficult to not be disappointed. Yes, we didn't think to book the rooms...our mistake. My mom did try to talk to them about it but no luck so far. My fiance is pissed because this is my day. He is going to discuss with my family this weekend when we see them. I am calling the Inn tomorrow. I just don't understand people sometimes.

Since they're not responding it sounds like they being jerks and don't care that you want the rooms. If you confirm they're not wit willing to budge, I have a wild solution. If you wouldn't lose any deposits and haven't sent any save the dates, just move your date, book the rooms you want and then they'd get whatever rooms are available on the new date. I also like the parent saying you're no longer invited idea. It really stinks that they are putting you through this.

If you told me you were getting married on one of the last popular weekends at the Cape next year, I’d call the place you were getting married right away and book their best available room. I would assume that your room would have already been assigned when you signed a contract with the inn, so I wouldn’t think to ask you about. Hotels are pricey on the cape and they book quick. Hopefully your aunts will be understanding, but I think you need to be careful how you discuss this with them.

View Quoted Comment Yea I mean I would do this since it seems like they are being petty about it. The fact that they would not be welling to switch with you when it's your wedding is gross in my book. Obviously you made a mistake but they are being unreasonable.