Accommodations for Bridal Party

If you're requiring them to stay there, you're responsible for it. Since you didn't discuss who was paying or what their budget was, I would assume you were paying as well.

I'm not paying for my bridal parties rooms the night before/after the wedding. I've never heard of this being expected by any means. If you can afford it, that's very generous of you, but it's not required. However, we aren't all staying at the same place or hotel. Some are getting an Air BNB, some in the same hotel as us, etc.

I would think if it is a mandatory stay here the night before you would be responsible to pay that. But any time I have had to travel for a wedding and stayed anywhere like a hotel, my FH and I pay for our room to stay in. But automatically expecting the bride to pay for that accommodation seems strange to me.

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This! I'll be offering my bridesmaid the option to stay with me at my parents house (for free) the night before, which will also include their breakfast the morning of. However, I am not requiring it but i'm not paying for any accommodations for them because our parents all live within 15 minutes of each other, about 30-45 mins from venue.

View Quoted Comment They would need to pay a lot more than $33 to stay in a place on their own, but I guess I can offer that if they want to stay somewhere else they can?

View Quoted Comment The families are not staying with us, just us girls! Thanks!

View Quoted Comment Okay awesome!

View Quoted Comment I guess it’s not mandatory, it seemed easier if we all spend the night together so no one is running late the next day. I can offer for people to stay elsewhere if they choose to. Though I assume that $33 is cheaper than they could find elsewhere

If you are requiring them to stay in the hotel room or Airbnb with you, then you should pay for it. Or give them the option. "If you want to stay in the room I booked, the cost is $XX/person, however if you decide to stay somewhere else, that is fine too!"

In my personal opinion I don't think you are required to pay for it, you know with the whole paying for a wedding thing & $33 is a steal for accommodation's. I guess I would preface it like "it would come to $33pp but if you can't swing it let me know" and then discuss personally

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Of course they can, they're adults and they can choose where they want to stay. That should have been a discussion before you assumed that they were staying with you. Perhaps they wanted to get a room with their SO, their family, etc. Since you assumed and booked a room for everyone without discussing it, you should pay for it. You can't book a hotel for someone without asking them if they want to stay there and then tell you that they owe you money for it.

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If I lived only 2 hours away from venue I'd rather stay in my own bed then a Hotel. If you want them to stay with you, you have to pay if you give them the option to either stay with you or elsewhere they pay.

View Quoted Comment Good idea!! Thank you!!

View Quoted Comment Okay awesome! Thank you!

View Quoted Comment It is definitely a cheap accommodation. But I would not be wanting to stay in a room with a bunch of people just to make sure I would sleep. If that wasn't offered before booking the room it should be an option. Obviously, we don't know the entire situation and all discussions leading up to the decision to have everyone staying together the night before. It definitely isn't something that is common from where I am from to have all of the bridesmaids together the night before. I would suggest talking to the girls individually and making sure they are able to pay for their portion and not in the group chat.

View Quoted Comment I’m getting married at 11am so we have to start getting ready around 6:30-7 so to drive 2 hours before that might be a little crazy

View Quoted Comment Sorry! I didn’t provide a lot of information. It’s a private ceremony with only 30 people so no ones family or significant others are coming, but I hear your point. Thank you for your input

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Well this is a lot worse than just expecting them to pay for a hotel that you booked without their consent. I wouldn't attend a wedding where the bride expected me to travel 2 hours each way, pay for a hotel that I didn't ask for, and couldn't bring my partner.

View Quoted Comment I rented a whole house so everyone would still have a bed, if not a whole room to themselves. I will definitely truly reach out andhave personal conversations

View Quoted Comment You’re excluding the SOs/family of your wedding party? Yeah, I’d be expecting you to pay my accommodations or I’d just leave my house at 5am the day of the wedding.