WooPigSooie
Devoted June 2020

Accommodating Dietary Restrictions?

WooPigSooie, on November 13, 2017 at 7:07 PM

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What is your opinion on accommodating dietary restrictions? From some posts I’ve seen I feel like anymore it is considered very rude to not provide a meal that meets guest’s individual dietary restrictions. I’m gonna share my plan, please let me know what you think. I will have a buffet, not a...

What is your opinion on accommodating dietary restrictions? From some posts I’ve seen I feel like anymore it is considered very rude to not provide a meal that meets guest’s individual dietary restrictions. I’m gonna share my plan, please let me know what you think. I will have a buffet, not a plated dinner, so I won’t have a place to write in allergies or a meal option on the RSVP card when I do the invitations. There will be vegetarians, gluten free, nut allergy, and lactose intolerant guests that I know of, and who knows what other issues my guests may have that I'm not aware of. I'll have the caterer label each dish with what it is and any allergens it contains. I feel like the guests need to handle it from there. They should skip what they can’t eat and take what they like. If they end up only liking a couple things, don’t eat much, and are still hungry later that is on them. I am allergic to apples and grapes and nobody has ever attempted to factor that into a menu. Continued....

49 Comments

  • WooPigSooie
    Devoted June 2020
    WooPigSooie ·

    @HavanaChic That is exactly how I feel. I didn't want to have to have a line for meal preferences on the RSVP cards because I know I will get all sorts of dietary restrictions that are not legit. However I really do want everyone to enjoy my wedding so in an effort to please everyone I will include the line and go from there.

    @Kourtney My allergy to apples is life-threatening so before I started kindergarten I knew to make sure that there is zero trace of apple in anything that I consume. When I was in school or went to camp they never provided me with an alternative snack my parents provided them with snacks for me and I usually had to remind them to give me my snack not what would kill me.

    Since we are now in an era of lack of self responsibility and frivolous lawsuits I see that I will need to accommodate every individual's request.

  • 12.2
    Savvy December 2017
    12.2 ·

    @OP I'm glad you've been receptive to the comments. Personally, there have been many meals I absolutely can not eat for either having an allergen in or someone carelessly using the same spoon for multiple dishes or touching the common utensil to another item on their plate. I do tend to eat/bring my own food; but I greatly appreciate anyone who takes the time and care to find a way to accommodate allergies. I'm bending over backwards accommodating allergies and strict voluntary restrictions for our menu because I know how much I have appreciated when someone took the extra moment to just set aside a separate item that would be safe for me.

  • Jennifer
    Savvy October 2018
    Jennifer ·

    As long as you have options available for everyone that's what matters. I have celiac and have to eat gluten free. The only other restrictions I know of are vegetarian and lactose. So I have dairy free options available and plenty of veggies multiple meat free pastas on buffet. Our venue is making me a special plate gluten free so that my guests can gluten it up.

  • Soon2bMrsG
    Savvy February 2018
    Soon2bMrsG ·

    I am also doing a buffet. On the bottom of the rsbp card, in lieu of the meal options, I included a like for dietary restrictions. I do it for a living, so it is basically second nature to ask and accomodate

  • Megan
    Devoted January 2018
    Megan ·

    As a vegan, if I was attending a wedding for someone I wasn't that close to and they called something vegan...I'm not sure if I would eat it to be honest unless there was a chef to talk to. I don't know how many times I've even been to restaurants and they call something vegan which is actually vegetarian and could make me sick. With that being said, I never go to any event expecting anyone to cater to my food preference. Before any event I eat a huge meal. The same goes for my FH. We never get frustrated because we know our choice is out of the norm for most guests attending.

  • zoedoublei
    Dedicated October 2019
    zoedoublei ·

    Half of my guests are either dairy free, gluten free, or meat free or a combo. So all options are dairy and gluten free and then there's a meat and veggie option.

  • OGJessieJV
    Master July 1867
    OGJessieJV ·

    I have friends with food allergies and dietary restrictions and am able to accommodate them in my home so I don’t see the big deal about accommodating them on my wedding day. I’ve always been accommodated with my food allergies, so I don’t mind doing so for others.

  • K squared
    Super October 2017
    K squared ·

    We offered a kosher/vegetarian option because we had a few kosher and vegetarian friends/family. Nobody on our list was vegan or had any allergies to food. If they did we would have accommodated them. We also had a buffet with a wide variety of options. We wanted everyone to be able to eat.

  • Samantha
    Dedicated February 2018
    Samantha ·

    We know we have 2 guests that keep kosher, 1 GF, and at least one vegetarian. We're have kosher meals catered separately. We put s line on the RSVP to let us know about allergies and dietary restrictions. We picked all of the menu so that everyone has food options. Being thoughtful about combinations of things can mean your vegetarian dish can be GF, dairy free, and nut free. And have GF sides. It doesn't mean a whole separate meal for each option.

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