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Devoted December 2018

Absent father what do i do about the dance?

futuremrsS, on June 25, 2018 at 10:25 AM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 9

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Warning it's a long one. I was raised by a single mother. Although she is walking me down the isle, I am not sold on doing a mother daughter dance. I love my mom and and she was a very dedicated mother, but we are not exactly close. She's extramly religious and we have very difrent view points on life and it makes it impossible to have a close relationship.
I don't have any close male "father" figures. I have two older brothers, I am not close to either one of them. So dancing with one of them is not something I would want to do.
I thought about skipping the dance. My FH has an absent father and mother, but decided to ask his grandmother to dance with him for the son/mother dance. He said he ca skip his dance with "mom" so I wouldn't feel weird about not doing mine, but I don't want to rob his grandmother of that special moment. I feel like if he does one and I don't it will be blatantly obvious I didn't do a father daughter dance. Is it silly it would be so embarrassing for me?
Should I just suck it up and dance with my mom.
It feels like I have zero options. Help!

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Latest activity by Mattie, on August 23, 2019 at 5:22 PM

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Mrs. Rose To Be · on June 25, 2018 at 10:29 AM
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Hi Daisy! Personally, I would say skip the father daughter dance but let him have his grandmother and son dance. If you’re inviting close family and friends I’m sure they would all know and understand your situation, so it probably wouldn’t seem weird to anyone except you, you know? xx
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Tammy · on June 25, 2018 at 10:45 AM
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I would probably also skip but have him do a grandmother/son dance.... maybe do it a little later so it wouldn't seem so obvious
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c · on June 25, 2018 at 10:51 AM
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Personally, I would skip it and let his grandmother have her dance with him. I agree with the PP, the people you invite should be understanding and be somewhat aware of your situation.
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futuremrsS · on June 25, 2018 at 11:36 AM
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Thank you ladies for the reassurance. It's seems I'm probably thinking too much into, and making it weird for myself when no one else will think it so.
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Jocelyn · on June 25, 2018 at 11:55 AM
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My H’s parents didn’t attend the wedding. I did a father daughter dance and skipped him dancing all together. It was an easy transition into the prayer after that. No one made a big deal about it.
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Tpatb · on June 25, 2018 at 12:46 PM
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I went to a wedding last year where the bride skipped the father/daughter dance & he still danced with his mother. It was nothing odd about it at all. We went on about the reception.
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earias · on June 25, 2018 at 12:59 PM
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Just skip it. No one will care and might actually be relieved they don't have to sit through another dance. I don't have parents so we just invited everyone to join us after about 30 seconds into the first dance and his parents danced with us. It was very special.
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OrangeCrush · on June 25, 2018 at 5:42 PM
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Just skip it - you are overthinking it. My dad had passed for my first wedding, we just did our first dance and cued people to invite us after about 45 seconds, no mother son dance either. People won't notice.
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Mattie · on August 23, 2019 at 5:22 PM
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Skip it. My biology dad was/is an absent father so I will not be doing the dance and FH’s mother unfortunately passed away almost a year ago so we decided to skip both of the dances.
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