a week before the wedding rant

I know how you feel! My FMIL has been semi-involved the whole time but every single thing she's taken a stand on has been either after we made a firm decision or it was too late to change.

We're 2 days away and last night my FMIL started freaking out that we didn't invite one of a groomsmen's younger brothers. Said we had to call him to appologize and see if he can still make it. Mind you, the final count and seating chart are in and escort cards are completed, and this is someone we probably wouldn't have invited even if she had mentioned it 4 months ago. She was not too pleased when we said no, but what can you do?

View Quoted Comment Wow that is just not right . I think they don’t realize all the hard work and planning that goes into a wedding!

I'd just let her know that you've already confirmed everything with vendors, wedding party, etc so at this point it's not up for debate or discussion.

Assuming you have everything confirmed with your vendors, your timeline should be pretty set in stone based on them. Tell FMIL that this is the timeline and the wedding is a week away. You cannot make changes this close to the day.

That’s just silly, one week before the wedding... Just tell her politely but firmly: thank you for your input, all decisions have been made & communicated with vendors already. Unfortunately, there is no way to change anything this late in the planning & we are also happy with the decisions we made.
And then carry on with your business 😉 If that doesn’t work tell your FH to communicate with FMIL. You don’t need stress around changing things that close to the wedding.

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Exactly this

Everything is probably pretty figured out with vendors and maybe even a DOC if you have. So I don't see what your FMIL would be complaining about time-wise. It's not like she had to plan the whole wedding. A timeline of a wedding is pretty standard. If she's complaining about like hair and makeup well there isn't much you can do it's already set up.

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She wants to add to the timeline... It's too late now everyone has it already. So frustrating!

Is anything she is complaining about in the timeline directly to do with her, not other people? Because that is the only thing I would consider changing. If you planned for het yo see your hairdresser at noon, for example, and she wanted earlier, you could drop her and let her fend for herself, and find a hairdresser on short notice. Not worth your fighting to keep her in a group. But guest issued, photographer's schedule, and other general timeline, she has no standing. And they absolutely are set in stone.