a question no one wants to think about...

I haven't gotten questions yet, and pretty much all of our guests have to fly to our wedding. I'm hoping it doesn't deter people from attending considering how much money I've spent...

I am so afraid that not only will our cruise be canceled, but so will our wedding! If one of us (myself, my fiance, and our 3 kids) is exposed at work or school, self quarantine will require us to cancel the WHOLE ENTIRE WEDDING! I am in a panic. I do not need this in the last 30 days before my wedding.

I went to a wedding yesterday that my uncle was invited to and he didn’t go because of fear of coronavirus Since he was scared of being in crowds and no way was this wedding far. It was local. So some people might be afraid regardless and due to other aspects regardless of travel

The big thing here, which of course is the hardest, is not to panic! You're smart to be considering all of your options and the potential effects on your wedding day, but the truth is that no one really knows yet how the coronavirus will change over the coming months.

To answer the specific question at hand, you're getting guests who are asking you what will happen if flights are cancelled? The literal answer: well...your flight is cancelled, you either get in the car/train/etc. or stay home. When you get these calls, they're looking for reassurance, so give it to them! I am on the general email list for several major airlines and have gotten several emails as of this morning from Southwest, American, etc. basically stating what they are doing to be cleaner and more efficient than ever in regards to the virus and they will continue to fly safely. Keep it general with: "we are definitely keeping an eye on flights for our big day! We're feeling confident that there won't be any issues due to XYZ information we received. Hopefully this remains so we can see you at the wedding!" It may be a factor when guests make the personal decision to RSVP for the wedding, and of course could be different if you have guests who currently reside in a country with travel restrictions, but at this point there's no reason to believe that this will put a damper on your big day

There's only so much you can do. Only time will tell how things progress over the next few months. We have a destination wedding planned for LA in November - FH and I decided that even if travel is prohibited during that time, we will move forward with a local wedding. If that is the case, about half of our guests will not be able to make it as everyone is spread out nationally & internationally. It would be really unfortunate for that to be the case, but we aren't willing to postpone.

My wedding is at the end of May and it does concern me a bit because my entire family is flying from the east coast. There isn't anything I can do about it as this point, so I am choosing not to stress and enjoy this time in my life.

View Quoted Comment I feel you - I’m so sorry! I’m getting married in 80 days out of state but we live in Seattle so I’m in general FREAKING OUT right now. I feel your pain girl.

I hope people stop panicking. I went to a hospital today and it was the talk with everyone who had to be screened prior to entry. This was interesting to me for many reasons. People don't freak out with the flu and fly by the masses to the grocery store for toilet paper and water like it is the end of the world. The majority of "exposed" people won't even show symptoms or have mild symptoms to the point that a doctor wont even see you...so basically we could have it and not actually know or you have symptoms but it may not be the actual virus. Furthermore, I found it interesting that the doctors, nurses, and patients frequented the smoking area. They are worried about the coronavirus which has killed far less people that smoking does per year...basically what I am saying is, people need to take a deep breath.

View Quoted Comment This! Our wedding is the fourth, and we just had a case reported not far from here. I'm terrified that his mom won't be able to make it - her health isn't greatest. If we had to postpone, idk what either of us would do. Rn we're planning on going forward with whoever shows up, which it'll have to be a zombie apocalypse to keep my mother away. So we'll have our witness lol

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Yea ours is on the 9th. I'm even more afraid that we will be exposed and will have to self-quarantine!!! Then we would have to cancel the whole entire wedding. I am so stressed out!! What bride needs this in the 30 days before her wedding??

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I couldn't agree with you more. I was talked to my FH's cousin she is a NP and she basically told me that we just need to use common sense and to wash hands frequently. Then if someone is sick to stay home from work/ school. Also people need to stop stocking up on face masks, they literally don't work and people in the health industry actually do need them!

I’m getting married 3/28. Luckily no one has said anything to me but I am sure everyone’s thinking it

I work in an ENT practice and get exposed to sick people every day... I try not to worry about things that haven't happened yet.

View Quoted Comment OMG yes wearing a mask if you’re not already sick can actually increase your chances of getting it if you come in contact with someone who has it! Because it can get around the edges of the mask and then be trapped against your face. My sister and her FH are both MDs. I reached out to them in panic the other night and my future BIL sent us this post - y’all should give it a read - it makes soooo much sense!!!
https://www.facebook.com/100003340269924/posts/2809958409125474/?d=n

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Oh my gosh that is a great post and yes! My FH works as an medical assistant; he is like this is just like any other type of virus. Honestly the most vulnerable are those with compromised immune systems. We just need to be smart about what we do and use common sense. I'm hoping Target still has some toilet paper and paper towels when I run there on my lunch break soon. It's so ridiculous to stock pile items.

So just to provide an update...pretty certain we’re going to be cancelling our May 23rd wedding celebration now. This situation is getting real, real fast. It would be selfish and dangerous for me to keep the wedding plans. I can’t fathom putting my parents and his parents in danger like that...it’s so sad. I feel like I’m mourning...but so many people are dying and so many more will die that I feel guilty even just feeling sorry for myself that my wedding isn’t going to happen. So many conflicting feelings.

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Oh Rachel!!! I'm so sorry!!! I just posted a question on the board about invites and now I feel terrible! Ours isn't until July, but if this thing keeps blowing up, we'll be affected too! Of course there are things to be thankful for, but it is 100% normal to feel all the emotions you are feeling! Anger, frustration, sadness, mourning...it's ok to process these without guilt! You will not be alone. This isn't going away any time soon.

View Quoted Comment Thanks for your support Brie ❤️