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a place for my brother

Cortney, on June 25, 2019 at 5:17 AM Posted in Planning 0 16

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Hello, I'm trying to think of a job to give my brother at my wedding. Both of my fiance's brothers are in it as groomsmen and his sister is my bride's maid.

Truth be told im a little jealous. But also I would like to have a job for him where he feels important. He's my older brother and we have been through a lot together.

I should say he is 27 and has down syndrome. He can't read. And directing seating like an usher does would be unnecessary because 90% of the guests attending are my fiance's family. I don't really want to make him a ring barrier, that seems a bit too childish. We have thought about making him a greeter, or something.

I am just looking for advice. Any ideas of what he can do? Thanks.

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Super October 2019
Andrea · on June 25, 2019 at 5:55 AM
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I think a greeter would be a great idea, especially if he is super social. Maybe he could help you with your train? Is there any reason he couldn’t be a groomsman?
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Cortney · on June 25, 2019 at 6:07 AM
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He is incredibly social.

The only reason he wouldn't be a groomsman is because it was a real struggle for me to think of the 2 bride's maids I have. Literally 90% of my friends and family is out of state and won't be attending and I think it would look a bit strange if it were uneven.
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Andrea · on June 25, 2019 at 6:22 AM
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Is he your only sibling? I’d rather risk things being uneven than to hurt my brother’s feelings.
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Michelle · on June 25, 2019 at 6:53 AM
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My future brother-in-law has a developmental disability (age 23) and he's actually going to be our ring bearer! I'm super excited about this especially because I know he'll love doing it. I don't think it's childish at all, you're sharing your special moment with not only your future hubby but your family too! I think you should give it a second thought. If not a greeter would be perfect for him! Or maybe pass out programs if you have those orrrr who's walking you down the aisle? Maybe him
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Beginner May 2020
Cortney · on June 25, 2019 at 7:07 AM
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The program idea would be cute. I'll look and see if I can make them. That would be a good job for him.
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Caytlyn · on June 25, 2019 at 7:40 AM
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There's absolutely nothing wrong with uneven sides if your FH wants him to be a groomsman. I can't imagine not giving him that honor just because you think it would be "strange." You could also make him a bridesman and have him stand on your side. Greeter also sounds like a great option if having even sides is truly that important to you.
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Cortney · on June 25, 2019 at 7:59 AM
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Aww. He would make such a cute brides man. That's a nice idea. Never would have thought of that.
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Danielle · on June 25, 2019 at 8:19 AM
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I am having my brother walk me down the aisle with my dad. Why can't your brother be a groomsman or a bridesman?
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Arielle · on June 25, 2019 at 8:36 AM
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I also think this is a super cute idea!
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Melissa · on June 25, 2019 at 9:18 AM
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I think a greeter or a bridesman would be a great idea! Of course, it would really come down to what he feels best doing
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Champion June 2019
Gen · on June 25, 2019 at 10:00 AM
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If your FH’s sister is your bridesmaid, then shouldn’t your brother be his groomsman?
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Cheryl · on June 25, 2019 at 10:08 AM
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My brother is my ring bearer and he is 20. I have no sisters (not that gender matters ) and wanted to include him - I wrote a note asking him to be my ring bearer and hid it within a kinder egg (those were our favorites as kids). He thought it was great and he is flattered to be apart of our day...but asked if he could avoid the girls night and go out with the guys instead!
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Melle · on June 25, 2019 at 10:46 AM
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I had my brother walk down the aisle with his wife same way both parents did. It was a way of acknowledging that he's a part of my life and wedding party without directly making him a grooms an
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Jess · on June 25, 2019 at 11:10 AM
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Could he walk someone else down the aisle like your mom, grandmother, etc? This way you still have even sides but he stills feels important being in the wedding processional.
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Legend July 2019
MrsD · on June 25, 2019 at 2:32 PM
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You're jealous of what? Why can't he be a groomsman?
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Cortney · on June 25, 2019 at 9:03 PM
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That makes me feel better. I would like to have him as a ring bearer.
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