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a little wedding anxiety!

Rachel, on December 29, 2019 at 2:51 AM Posted in Planning 0 3

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Hi everyone! Did you experience some minor anxiety/stress/second guessing about your event?

We were married at the courthouse earlier this year, less than two months after engagement, so we could get my husband's immigration paperwork taken care of as his visa was expiring. It was too short notice for his friends and family from Europe to come, and so we only invited about 12 of our closest friends. It was really low key. We are getting married in church in 2020, which is important to me. It just feels a bit funny to do it again, since it will be more than a year that we're married, although I will feel more unified after having been married by a priest. Have any of you ladies gone through a similar experience? Were you glad you did it again with your family? Did you have any regrets?
Also, my husband and I don't really have a place that is super special to both of us. There is no way my family and most of our US friends would travel to Europe. I have moved so much in the last 7 years that I don't have one particular church that I love. We live near the beach, but we don't usually like beach weddings. We love the mountains, so decided to do our wedding near the Rockies. Looking back now (and the fact that it's 3 am and I can't sleep 😅) I'm wondering if we should have just done it in my high school church near my parents house. I guess that option just felt like ME and not US.
Is all of this silly?! Please advise 😅

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Latest activity by Meghan, on December 29, 2019 at 11:21 AM

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Sharon · on December 29, 2019 at 7:34 AM
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Everyone's circumstances are different and sometimes we have to get married in unconventional ways. We did a small ceremony a few months ago due to family health concerns and are still planning a bigger wedding this fall. It does feel weird planning a wedding when we're already married but it's also fun and exciting to be able to celebrate with everyone in the way we've always envisioned.

As far as where you do it, that's totally a personal decision. We did it at the church I grew up in and don't think it was any less special for him.
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Victoria · on December 29, 2019 at 9:06 AM
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I had a coworker who did the same thing. She was visiting from Europe for the summer and knew it would be a long time for her to save up to come back so they got married in the US and did a wedding in her home country a year later. Its not silly, you deserve a big special day, you simply had a need to legally marry sooner. She had beautiful photos from her later wedding that she kept at her desk. It’s hard not to, but try not to put pressure on yourself to be the “us” vs “you” unless you’re fiancé has a concern. If not, you’re only adding it to yourself. The Rockies sounds beautiful but so does your childhood church if that’s the easier for you and your guests. Good luck.
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Meghan · on December 29, 2019 at 11:21 AM
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My best friend and her husband married in the courthouse in order to meet the K1 Visa requirements and then did a big wedding a couple of years later. I was at the courthouse wedding, but I was SO glad to be a part of her big wedding day. All of the guests were excited to celebrate with them regardless of the fact they had been married a little over 2 years at the time. So don’t feel funny about it! You deserve the wedding of your dreams.
As far as your wedding location, are you set on having it at a church? Are you willing to find a wedding venue with your H that suits both of your wants?
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