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a groom on his own?

Alyssa, on August 12, 2020 at 5:43 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 12

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So me and my hubby got engaged and everyone was excited for us except his mother. We thought she'd warm up to the wedding as it got closer but as time went on she started trying to sabotage the wedding, try and steal money, purposely ruin my dress, etc. I feel terrible for my hubby since he's the sweetest person and cause she hates that we're getting married he feels like his family doesn't support him. His young siblings do, and his birth dad, and aunts but that's it. I'm not sure how to help show him that he's not alone. What should I do?

P.S. she's okay with us living together, sleeping together, and having kids but not getting married

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Latest activity by Kristen, on August 12, 2020 at 9:12 PM

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Kristen · on August 12, 2020 at 5:52 PM
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Have you asked her or has he asked her why she is against the marriage?
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Dj Tanner · on August 12, 2020 at 5:55 PM
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This is certainly a bizarre situation. Did you guys ever have any sort of argument? Do you know if there is any specific reason why she doesn’t want both of you getting married? Regardless of the reason if she purposefully try to ruin your wedding dress if I were you I would just never talk to her ever again. It doesn’t matter if she’s your FH‘s mother. Anyone that would try to purposefully ruin someone’s wedding dress is a psychopath
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Hannah · on August 12, 2020 at 6:02 PM
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It's bizarre and very upsetting that his mom is opposed to this wedding. However, your fiance is not alone. You said there are other family (and I'm sure tons of friends) who are supportive of your upcoming wedding. I would try to focus on the people that care for and support your wedding and ignore your FMIL. It's scummy and one would expect their mom in their corner, but unfortunately it doesn't seem like that is going to happen. Sometimes it's best to let bitter people be and focus on the positive.
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Alyssa · on August 12, 2020 at 6:04 PM
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Yes she just said because she doesn't want us to get married
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Alyssa · on August 12, 2020 at 6:05 PM
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Nope she liked me until we decided to marry and even be is getting tired of her being so mean to me!
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Alyssa · on August 12, 2020 at 6:06 PM
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True. His birth dad supports him so he's been reconnecting with him which is good
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Kristen · on August 12, 2020 at 6:08 PM
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I feel there is something else there. Either it is her concerns or there is an issue she has. He should find that out so she can be on board. Women can be stubborn and if she has this mindset she will continue to act this way. I think he needs to sit down and have a heart to heart to get to the root of the problem.
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Alyssa · on August 12, 2020 at 6:29 PM
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We thought so too so we decided he should take her out for dinner. She just yelled at him and said if he wants to marry me then she'll never speak to him again
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Kristen · on August 12, 2020 at 6:55 PM
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Ya know what? You both tried. If she chooses to be out of her son's life...it'll be hurtful for him of course but that is on her to be that kind of mom. As others have said I would not talk to her at this point but just be there for him.
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Alyssa · on August 12, 2020 at 7:44 PM
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Yeah I am i just feel so bad you know?
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Jana · on August 12, 2020 at 7:59 PM
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Unfortunately some people are toxic and best avoided at all costs for your mental health, even if they are blood relations. He has you and his friends/family who are there for him so continue to be supportive moving forward.
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Kristen · on August 12, 2020 at 9:12 PM
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Oh of course and that is natural but honestly you have tried and there is nothing she can do. Like pp's have said use the other people for support as that is more important.
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