A cynical post...

I don't want to care so much but I do. It's just a part of being detail-oriented and a bit OCD (self-diagnosis there).

Girlfriend! I felt like that! I tried to keep it as low stress as I could. Like you I really wanted to elope but my hubby and parents put the kibosh on that as well. So i had a smaller destination wedding of 54 and I didnt do antying i didnt want to do. So have the wedding YOU want. Don't do the cheesy! Do what reflects you and your FH and your style.. thats the beauty of it. I didnt fret about tiny details either and our wedding was better than I expected. If something small went wrong I was having too much fun to notice. Just be true to yourself.

I wanted to elope as well. I am obsessing over the wedding because FH really wants this. Will he notice the favors, centerpieces, or that the decorations area all coordinated? Probably not...but his mother and family will and I want to make him as proud of me as I am of him. So, it is what it is.

@ Amy i think if anyone else said that it would come off as being self centered but from you its funny lol I think all of us kind of feel the same its always better when it has to do with yourself

@Amy A, I think you and I would get along in real life. Everything you say on here is what I'm thinking, haha!

Ladies, I really appreciate your words. I feel like I'm missing the bride gene or something.

I feel ya! Of course I'm older and was married before, albeit a small affair at a hunting club and we made the food. This time around I just want the ceremony and the party. I am excited to be getting married.

I'm not tossing flowers or garter, barely care if we "cut" the cake or dance. I'm only doing favors because my escort cards don't stand up on their own and centerpieces because the venue doesn't supply them, I almost don't care if the tables are bare. I have a tea length white/ivory dress, no veil or anything. Not even sure I want to carry a bouquet, and I could go on and on....

I hope to walk in to rock music, no sappy "here comes the bride". My FH was never married before and he wants his family to witness it or I'd be on a plane to somewhere warm. No offense meant to anyone, just my feelings.

I dont feel the same, but i do agree that you need to make your wedding what you want it to be. Dont do something just because "that's how its done." Do what makes you happy.

For example, a couple of my friends got married several years ago, and they wanted to jump the broom, but they wanted to make it special, so instead they jumped over an electric guitar. Disrespectful to the tradition, maybe, but they made it their own.

@Debbie We're walking in to Raining Blood to Slayer.

I'm enjoying planning my wedding, but honestly I think most "wedding" things are really cheesy. I don't see it as cynicism, just that we all have different styles and tastes, so what I love, you might think is totally stupid and vice versa. Nothing wrong with that.

@winnipegwriter...awesome. I'm older than you, so I'm thinking MB20, Bob Marley, GooGoo Dolls. Yea, some of that can be sappy, too.

@Christina Thank you -- you phrased that really well!

@Winnipegwriter: just let your inner Barbie out!

I used to feel that way until I got engaged, lol.

Totally can relate, though I have found that I get occasional bridal brain. Nothing about the day itself, however, is going to overshadow our future marriage. That's what matters.

Haha, I totally relate...except I guess I've change a bit now that I decided I an having a wedding. Didn't want one my whole life and now that I'm having one I've been sucked in.

I'm happy some of you can relate! My two best friends are engaged and I feel like all we talk about is wedding stuff and I am just so bored! I so wish FH and I could have just eloped. I guess I'll just channel my energy into making our wedding as "us" as I can!

I'm going through the same thing!

I even had my place to elope all picked out. I showed it to him when he started talking about marriage and he told me, "You'll regret it if you don't have a wedding." Maybe I would have.

Now, I find myself thinking wedding details all day at work. It's insane how it hits you. I know it is only one day and I honestly don't care about anything beyond getting that license signed and not being broke, but if I'm going to shell out $1000s that I worked hard to make, I'm going to make it worth it.

This might sound weird, but we got married just the two of us the priest and a photographer, no stress at all, i forgot to wear any jewelry other than a bracelet, thats the worst thing that happened that day HA. We didnt tell anyone untill afterwards, and now were planning a huge family schmancy chandelier party for next year with 100+ guests and yes its super stressful. Its as if im worried because theres people there who will judge everything

I've kind of felt like you. I do love weddings, but let's just say I'm not spending a lot of time, money & energy on certain things that i feel from past experience really won't be that worth it to the guests.