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Kate
Dedicated June 2019

a couple we invited just broke up - awkward

Kate, on May 30, 2019 at 4:12 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 8
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My fiancé's close friend and his girlfriend (who have been together, for like, 10 years) just broke up, and our wedding is in two weeks! Yikes. We believe that the couple should decide how they want to go about attending since it's their business and we do not want to dis-invite anyone, but I really don't want any drama or awkwardness at our wedding. So I'm basically praying that my fiancé's friend will just come alone. Haha. But the girlfriend is friendly with another one of my fiancé's friend's girlfriends, so she may still want to. How would you handle this? Has this happened to you? My fiancé plans on checking in with him, and seeing how they would like to handle this since they are seated together and we also don't want things to be awkward for them, either.


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Latest activity by Kate, on June 1, 2019 at 12:50 PM
  • Formerbride
    VIP June 2019
    Formerbride ·
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    I'm sorry! If you've already finalized your seating chart and there's no way to amend it, it is what it is. Honestly, even if you could change it, I don't blame you if you simply don't want to. I think you either have to stay completely out of it or work with them. You can't ask them what they plan on doing if you're not prepared to hear something you may not like. They may tell you "we can't sit next to each other", then what?
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  • Kate
    Dedicated June 2019
    Kate ·
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    We actually haven't finalized our seating chart, so we do have a little time! Otherwise I wouldn't be posting about this, haha. I guess we'll just have to see what they say.

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  • Kelly
    Super October 2019
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    Two people in the wedding party actually broke up shortly after they were asked. They both wanted to be in the wedding after the breakup, especially the girl (I knew her less time than FH knew the guy). Following the breakup she texted me, FH, and a groomsman that we are friends with, saying that she still wants to be in the wedding.
    It seems to all be ok, the ex-couple are still friends & they have decided that they will be each other wedding dates for the wedding.
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  • R
    Super September 2018
    Rachel ·
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    Is the ex-girlfriend close to you or your FH? Would either of you hang out with her 1x1? If no, I bet she’s not planning on coming. But I think it’ll put your mind at ease to just check in with the friend under the reason that you have to finalize seating charts. If he doesn’t know (still ask him if he’s ok sitting with her or prefers to be separate), then try the fiancé’s friend’s girlfriend to see if she knows if the ex-girlfriend is planning to come. We had a couple breakup after their rsvp and before our wedding date. We weren’t close with the ex-girlfriend and she did not come to our wedding.
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  • Victoria
    VIP October 2018
    Victoria ·
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    One of my husband's good friends and his wife split the week before our wedding, and they were cruising on our honeymoon with us! The wife stayed home and the friend was able to transfer the cruise ticket into his brother's name. The brother came to the wedding and on the cruise and we all had a great time!

    I'd have your husband follow up and ask his friend what his plan is and go from there. I'd bet the friend comes alone.
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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    I think you are handling it best, by letting them figure it out. I would have your fiance check in in about a week, and see who plans on coming so you know for your seating chart.

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  • J
    Master October 2019
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    They have to figure it out. Once they decide if one or the other is coming or weirdly both, you can rearrange your seating chart so they don't have to sit next to each other.

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  • Kate
    Dedicated June 2019
    Kate ·
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    Yes, that is what we are doing! He is going to contact him about it. I'm staying out of it since it's my fiancé's friend and I'm not friends with his (now) ex. Thank you Smiley heart

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