8 weeks away and the stress is real

Yes it’s very stressful but it will all be worth it in the end. Im sorry to hear your caterer dropped out adding more to your list. Do you have any friends or family that could help you? When you get super stressed take a day to re-energize yourself. Good luck!! It all will be over soon and you will be married.

View Quoted Comment Sadly no, everyone nearby works high stress jobs or they’re busy, several are in the middle of moving. It doesn’t seem fair to bother them.
I’m looking forward to the honeymoon! I don’t get any days lately to relax, if it’s not work then it’s wedding stuff.

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I know it's a long-shot, but any chance there is a wiggle in the budget for a coordinator? Many take over about this time, and they would handle these types of issues for you - leaving you one person to deal with as a "filter" so you can breathe.

Definitely talk with your partner about it, regardless of whether you can budget in a planner. He can handle some things for you hopefully, and maybe he's just been waiting for some specific asks - just take a breather and plan to be positive and pleasantly surprised with whatever he comes up with (in case it's not really how you'd have done/ wanted it.)

IDK I'm far out from it but I know my stress levels can get super high, so I've already prepped my partner, our families, etc. that when RSVP time comes and I'm at peak-crazy I'll really appreciate it if they can do those follow-ups. It will get better!

View Quoted Comment You’ve brought up a good point. FH wants to help but he ends up completely lost and overwhelmed. It was his job to get quotes from vendors but he didn’t even know where to start, weeks went by with me casually asking and offering tips, finally I just did that too. I don’t want to steal all the work, and I wouldn’t mind if it was different than I wanted but the problem is it’s either I do it or it won’t get done. He’s not normally like this at all, he’s just out of his element even more than I am. I’m going to assign him some other tasks because I’m running out of steam.
I wish we could hire a planner but it’s completely out of the budget after paying for everything else. I know I can do it and that we’re almost done but it feels like this planning is affecting my health in a negative way. I can’t even relax.

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Yea, I feel you. Just level with him - in my (personal/ anecdotal) experience, men tend to like to "step up" and feel needed. So when it's an earnest request where it's clear you need them and you really appreciate the result, it's actually very strengthening to the relationship. good luck!

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Please take good care of yourself, Yam! The wedding isn't as important as you are

View Quoted Comment That’s good advice, thank you! I’ve noticed that as well, he likes to be handy and feel needed. Me needing his help motivates him to work harder. He felt really bad about “failing” at his task. I’ll try wording it your way! Maybe he can knock out the DIY(he’s surprisingly crafty!) so I can focus on these vendor texts blowing up my phone.

View Quoted Comment Thank you ❤️ I’m trying!

Yea it can get stressful but do not be afraid to take a break from it all. Sometimes you just need to compose yourself and give yourself a breather, ya know?

I’m going to give some cliche advise and say take care of yourself. Exercise - even if it’s walking 20 min everyday. Do yoga or do breathing exercises. Do something other than plan - go to a movie or brunch with friends.

You can do it!