6/27/2020 wedding

I think if your in-laws are hosting and want to postpone you should respect their wishes. It's one thing to invite people to a gathering and let them decide for themselves if the risk is worth it (I'd argue that it isn't fair to put guests in this position either), but it's another to ask people to invite a group of people to their home, including strangers they likely don't know.

We are about to cancel our May 30th wedding, which breaks my heart, but I know some of our guests are feeling tortured about RSVPing because they really want to be there but are concerned. Everyone would all feel much safer and able to celebrate and enjoy our event if we decided on a different date. I want us and our guests to have fun, and it is difficult to do that when you are fearful for your safety.

Yeah, I agree with everyone else that 60 people is a lot of people AND you have to be really considerate of your in-laws wishes, since they are providing the venue. If they want to postpone, please postpone.

"I’m not having a huge reception and plan on offering masks as my favor anyway?" In my mind neither of these things makes any difference in the current situation. You may not think it's huge, but 60 people can all get infected from one person AND your mask favors won't actually protect anyone from getting sick (if there is actually a carrier in attendance) because of proximity, people taking off their masks to eat and drink, normal human behavior, etc.

If your future in-laws are hosting the event at their private home, it sounds like they are trying to politely encourage you to reconsider without coming right out and telling you they are not comfortable with it. It's a terrible and unfair situation you are in right now, but I would recommend taking their cue and respecting their wishes as hosts. I hope you can find a solution you are all comfortable with!

While upstate is likely to open up faster than NYC, it will not be open to gatherings of that size by your date. The tristate area is just too hard hit - and MA is spiking, now, too.

I think you either need to re-envision your wedding, or postpone.

I'm sorry.

Yes, it does make you selfish. I can absolutely understand you wanting to move ahead but 1. it isn't safe. 2. 60 is not a small group when gatherings over 10 aren't allowed. 3. putting your guests in an awkward position having to choose between celebrating with you on an event that could wait or risking their health and for some it could possibly be a difference between life and death. If they are hosting and wanting to post pone, I think you should respect that. In the long run, it will be safer for all. If anything, I would cut your guest list to 10 or under and maybe have a larger reception once this is all over.

I agree with previous posters. If your in-laws are hosting the wedding and want to post-pone, I think you should respect their wishes.

Hi Kimberley,

I'm sorry you are going through this! I would recommend coming up with a plan b. Especially if your in-laws don't feel comfortable hosting an event that large. Maybe you and your partner can get married in a small ceremony with a larger reception in a few months once this passes.

I'm certain you will do what is best for you!

Sending lots of love your way!