5 year wedding renewal

Too soon. 5 years isn't much of an accomplishment or milestone.

I mean, you could. Sure. But I would never travel to a DW for anyone's 5-year renewal. To me, that's selfishly asking me to take up my vacation time and money to celebrate something not that big.

I agree. I believe that wedding renewals should begin at the 10 year mark or after. 5 years seems a bit soon. I would also suggest having a celebration with your husband to commemorate your fifth year

You will never be able to recreate the feel of a genuine wedding. No matter how lovely a vow renewal is, it doesn't feel like a wedding. I'd suggest you hold onto the happy memory of walking down the aisle when you were married.

As far as a five year vow renewal...I think you'll be disappointed by the RSVPs you'll receive. Your guests will feel like they just attended your wedding, and they may not show much enthusiasm about attending a renewal this quickly. IMO, you really should shelve this idea.

I'd suggest you wait until at least your tenth anniversary to consider a renewal. Actually, by 2023, you might be so involved in the progression of life that the issues at your 2013 wedding day really won't be such a big deal anymore.

So for our 5 year a special trip would be better recommened?

A 5 year trip would be a great way to celebrate! But I wouldn't do a vow renewal until at least 10 years.

A special trip sounds great - just the two of you!

You could always go on a trip and renew your vows privately if you wanted to. That sounds very romantic to me.

WW you guys are confusing me and I'm trying to keep up with etiquette! LOL

Help me out: I thought it was standard to do a vow renewal at the 5 year mark? I swear that is what y'all said. It may be my cold medication. :-p

Elope for your 5 year vow renewal. I've officiated vow renewals for just the couple (or maybe with BM & MOH) when it has only been a few years. Usually they say, "This is what we really wanted, but we kept our parents happy with a wedding we didn't want."

Vow renewals for 25 years or more usually include children & grandchildren, so are larger.

@GymRat- I have always been under the impression that the big vow renewal ceremonies are for the big anniversary marks. 25, 50 years. Lots of people now do one at 10 years also. I never heard of 5 years. But what do I know? Times are always changing!

Maybe the private elope thing is a nice idea, and then just nothing else later in life or who knows lol, the only reason I wanted the 5 years was to make some good memories, I'm thinking just a vacation for 2 or 3 if I have to bring my son is actually a great idea. Thanks everyone

I got married 3 year ago April 20th and were doing a big wedding June 18th of this year and I keep having it run through my head that people gonna judge cus were not doing it on our actual wedding anniversary

Ok... If after 5 years you're still upset about it you may want to go get yourself some counseling. I'm surprised this isn't hurting your marriage yet. Good luck.

@Evan, what? You're already married, you had a wedding. I don't get "wedding do-overs" it's either a vow renewal or a scam, it's not "a big wedding."

I have a similar situation and am coming up on the 5 year mark. I think instead I would rather push for a professional photoshoot and vacation in europe with husband to make up for it. We do not even have good wedding photos that we can look at and we hated our wedding because of everyone who was involved.

Why not? I’ve seen people do 1 year vow renewal. And 5 years is definitely a milestone considering how high the divorce rate it is. I think it’s fun, making some great memories and beautiful pictures.