5 person mini-mony... What do i need beyond clothes, flowers, and cake?

Photographer? Officiant?

You have the license for the officiant? Your witnesses chosen to sign for you. Are you having a full dinner or just cake? Are guests sitting or standing for the duration? Do you have music set up?


Beyond the legalites for the ceremony and feeding your guests, be it cake or dinner, the rest is up to you and what you both want.

We have a photographer and officiant. We aren't doing a reception, but we are going to Starbucks in full wedding attire - because that is where we met. I'm thinking a unity candle or some family type ceremony because we are blending kids - and only the kids (3) and he and I will be present outside of the officiant and photographer.

My favorite unity ceremony for people with kids is the sand one. Do you have plates/forks/napkins? Something to drink if you want something that Starbucks doesn't sell?
Aside from an officiant, a marriage license, and a soon-to-be spouse, you don't really *need* anything.

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I just want it to feel special to our sons, since they are what matters most. I'll look into the sand and I was considering a glass unity ceremony too (you add glass shards and then send them off to be melted into a sculpture). Trying to think of what else I would like to have - like decorations, or ... whatever. I think the cake will be done at home without the professional photographer. So that simplifies things quite a lot. We are doing a signing ceremony where our sons will sign our marriage certificate (even if it's just the ceremonial one).

View Quoted Comment There are sand ones that can be melted into sculptures as well, which depending on the age of your kids may be slightly safer than glass shards, but have the same effect.


In terms of making the ceremony more special for your kids, I feel like you have it covered by including them in the ceremony and signing the marriage *certificate. Since your in a garden, you don't really need much decor, but if anyone will be sitting, you could put something special on a chair for each of them, or if there's an aisle, you could use something to mark the aisle.
In Jewish weddings there's a ceremonial certificate called a Ketubah, which might be something to look into, even if you're not Jewish you could do a variation of it to include your kids. People have them made into pretty, frame-worthy things, so it would be another keepsake from the day that includes all of you.