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Stephanie
Super July 2020

$5 per Drink

Stephanie, on November 25, 2019 at 10:24 AM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 30

Hey Ladies. So FH and I found the perfect venue, but the only hiccup is that we can't bring our own liquor in. We already purchased a beverage package for $1595 and that's just for regular drinks for 200 guests. Regular drinks include: water, soda, juice and the chamoagne for the toast. Beer, wine, and liquor are $5. To add liquor for 200 people would be an additional $5000. Smiley surprise FH has done so much to make our wedding day amazing. There is no way I would ask him to pay 5K more on top of the 8K he has already paid for the venue and then some. So I need help on how to word on the invitations that the liquor drinks will be $5 per drink.

Also I had an idea of all of my BM's first round of drinks would be on me.

What are your thoughts?

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Latest activity by Stephanie, on December 3, 2019 at 6:14 AM
  • M
    Expert September 2020
    Marcia ·
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    So, does regular drinks include beer, wine, soda, juice, etc?


    I wouldn’t put that on your invitation, but maybe on your details insert or on your wedding website.
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  • Stephanie
    Super July 2020
    Stephanie ·
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    Regular drinks include: water, sodas, juice, and champagne for the toast. Liquor and wine is $5

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  • Vannesa
    Expert October 2021
    Vannesa ·
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    Possibly put that there is a cash bar?

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  • Stephanie
    Super July 2020
    Stephanie ·
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    Ok cool. Thanks. I think I am Leary about everyone's opinions. There is already enough of that going around.

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  • W
    VIP September 2020
    Willow ·
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    Have your website say there will be cash bar. Don't put it on invite
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  • Stephanie
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    Stephanie ·
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    Do you think people will not show up if its on the invite?

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  • Gen
    Champion June 2019
    Gen ·
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    Can you ask the venue if it would be less money to just add on wine and beer for your guests?

    Alternately, you could ask do a consumption bar where you just pay for the liquor that your guests consume, rather than paying a flat $5k fee. Though I guess that would only be worth it depending on how heavily you expect your guests to drink. In order for $5000 to come out to $5 per drink, each of your guests would have to have 5 alcoholic drinks. Does that seem likely to you? If not, you're better off paying per drink. You could also see if they'll let you put a limit on the consumption bar (i.e. you and your FH pay for the first $2k worth of liquor and after that runs out, it becomes a cash bar)

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  • Stephanie
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    Stephanie ·
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    We have already asked those questions hun. Its either cash bar or purchase through them.

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  • Gen
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    Gen ·
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    Well if you did a “cash bar” you could see if you could still pick up the first part of the tab?
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  • Stephanie
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    Stephanie ·
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    Yeah I was thinking of doing something like that. Thanks.

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  • W
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    Willow ·
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    I believe etiquette dictates that you're not supposed to put anything about gifts, spending money, etc on the invite


    I don't think it would actually discourage people from coming, there are simply things that aren't supposed to go on an invite
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  • Gen
    Champion June 2019
    Gen ·
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    That’s what I would do! Figure out the most you can afford to spend without putting a financial strain on yourselves, and just cover that much.


    You really should provide *some* drinks for your guests but, it’s not worth putting yourself into debt over lol. Just cover what you can.
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  • Stephanie
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    Stephanie ·
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    Thank you so much


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  • Stephanie
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    Stephanie ·
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    Right. Thank you Smiley smile

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  • Sexypoodle
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    Sexypoodle ·
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    That’s interesting..... So they’re going to charge you $5000 flat without knowing what or how much people actually end up drinking? If all 200 of your guests had three alcoholic drinks ($15 each) that would total $3000. So what happens with the remaining unused $2000 that you paid for?
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  • Stephanie
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    Stephanie ·
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    My thoughts exactly. Which is one reason why we decided to just do the cash bar.

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  • KimandLarry
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    KimandLarry ·
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    We're doing a tabbed bar option. We're paying for the first $2500 and if it goes over that then it becomes a cash bar. We're doing beer, wine, and well drinks. Anything that isn't on the list is available for guests to pay for themselves but I'm not paying for a $10 glass of scotch lol.

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  • Catherine
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    Catherine ·
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    This is tough .. for ours we only included beer wine and champagne for our guests. and then it was a cash bar for any liquor. I kind of spread the word by mouth when people were discussing the wedding with me (also told them to bring IDs) and then at the bar i had this sign...


    $5 per Drink 1


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  • Catherine
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    Catherine ·
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    This is a good idea.. perhaps tell the venue you are willing to pay for the tab up to X amount. say the first $500 or whatever you are comfortable affording.

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  • Stephanie
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    Lol that sounds like a good plan.

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