5 minute wedding?

I went to one wedding that was that fast and I was like whaaaaaaaa?!?!? just happened. Like it didn't seem real. Committing yourself to someone for life and it's over in 5 minutes?!?!?

Find a new officiant. Someone who can drag it out to at least 15.

We're having a Catholic wedding - it will be an hour.

Hmm, I guess if you just cut straight to the vows, exchanging of the rings, etc then it makes sense. Our actual ceremony was very short, we made it about 30ish minutes because we had 2 soloists, a unity candle, a reader, and several prayers.

Your ceremony can be whatever you want it to. I went to a wedding ceremony a few months ago..it was 6 minutes. It was weird being so short. What the heck did I drive all the way out there for?!

Ours is going to be non-denominational, but will still be about 20-25 minutes in length.

Geeze. I want a quick ceremony too, but I was thinking along the lines of 20 minutes. I would find a new officiant how will make the ceremony a memory and worth the money you spend on them.

Ours will be about 10 minutes. I'm with Amy. I find ceremonies boring. My FH and I aren't mushy people, so 10 minutes is all we need to say what we want to say.

Most modern Jewish weddings are really quick My question would be, where does he start the clock on the 5 minutes, because the processional can take that long... But yeah our ceremony will be quick...

Precessional

Opening Remark...

Vows

Rings

Kiss

break the glass

everyone screams Maze tov

recessional

I told our officiant we wanted like 10-15 mins.. but she added in some extra stuff (unapproved) and it was like 20.. that was long enough! 5 is a little short though..

I thought it was supposed to be about 10-15mins ish

Ours will be

walk down the aisle

officiant says stuff

we say our vows

sand unity ceremony

sea shell ceremony

carried off into the sunset

I have officiated a couple weddings most were about 10 minutes if you add in a sand ceremony or unity candle it will add some time.

Ok, I just contacted him to clarify and he said that it could be whatever we want it to be and that he was counting from when we're actually standing in front of him.

I'm relieved b/c we both really liked him, he got wonderful reviews from other brides I've gotten references from (plus he happens to be the least expensive one I've found). From what most of you are saying, 15-20 minutes is reasonable/expected. Thanks for the input!

I'd say 10 min, 20 max. Ours will be 15 max. I tend to get bored around that point at other weddings I've been to so this way everyone is still engaged. I'm sure he'd be ok with adding on an extra ten minutes or so

Ours was between 10-15 minutes (counting walking down the aisle etc). We didn't do unity ceremonies or have readings.

I don't want my ceremony more than 20 minutes tops.

My officiant asked what I wanted.

I said "quick, simple, to the point, kiss done"

I am huge anti-PDA. I wanted a court house wedding. Ours was probably close to ten minutes - no longer than that, if that.

Rev. Ann, I think that's what he was trying to say. He said 5 minutes seems like a long time when it's just him talking lol. Ok, I think with walking in, the readings, unity candle, etc, and walking back down the aisle, I'll shoot for 20 minutes. Thanks everyone!

When I was with my EX, we went to his cousin's wedding, in a church and we were 5 minutes late, FIVE and it was over!

I 100% agree with Rev. Ann...most ceremonies are 15-20 minutes. If it were only 5 minutes there is nothing extra or special....basically Do you?, and do you? I do and I do.

Unity ceremony, reading, reading or repeating of vows, prayer of blessing...My mother is an officiant, and I have never seen a ceremony that was shorter than 10 minutes. That is taking out all of those extra things...I have seen a ceremony once that a baptist minister had done...it was 40 minutes. They had a marriage license signing unity ceremony...it was lovely, but that part alone took 10 to 15 minutes.

All the weddings I have been to as an adult have been catholic weddings. I find them boring- probably cus I can't hear anything 99% of the time. So, out of all of our group of friends we are the first to have an officiant marry us at a ceremony outside of a church. It will be quick. Im think 20min quick. Short, simple, and sweet

5min is super fast. I would feel like I would have gotten whiplash if I attended a 5 min ceremony.

I had one couple who insisted it not be more than 5 minutes. I explained that a guest could sneeze and miss half the ceremony. That guests had traveled great distances and would feel cheated at a 5 minute ceremony. They held firm at 5 so that is what I did.

Most of my ceremonies run 10-15, but with readings by friends can run as long as 20.

Five minutes?

Do you?

yes

Do you?

yes

Then I pronounce you whatever.

Most of mine are 20ish minutes. More is wasted, less makes it feel unimportant.