4 months way, anxious about Everything?!

The wedding will definitely sneak up on you, I know ours has! The best advice I have is to make a list of absolutely EVERYTHING you need to do between now and your wedding day, even the small stuff that you might not even thing is relevant enough for the list. The checklist on here is helpful, but it wasn't as detailed as I needed it to be. After you've done that, put dates next to each item for when you need them done by so you can work out a schedule. Or you can rank them in terms of priority (writing a 1 next to things to do ASAP, a 2 next to things to do soon, so on and so forth). Listing everything out and visualizing everything that needs to be done made me feel a lot better and every other day I try to check at least one thing off my list. Best of luck!

The best way I found to reduce my anxiety was to make 2 separate lists: needs and wants. The importance is really recognizing the difference between what you “need” to do and what you “want” to do.


The things that NEED to get done, are things that you have to do or else the wedding will be RUINED ie, making sure you and your fiancé have something to wear. Applying for your marriage license. Collecting RSVPs and submitting your final headcount to your caterer. Paying your photographer. Stuff like that.

The second list is things that you WANT to do. Like, flowers. They’re nice, yes! But ones wedding was ever RUINED because they didn’t have flowers. Centerpieces. Seating chart (will it be chaotic without it? Probably lol. But will it RUIN the day? Nope!)

Once you see how few things are on your “needs” list, I think you’ll feel a lot less stressed. This helped me A LOT...... and of course I ended up getting everything done from both lists, but really just visualizing it on 2 separate lists and seeing how little I needed to do in order for the day to not be ruined, was a huge weight off my shoulders.

^that was supposed to say “no ones wedding was ever ruined by not having flowers” I left out the “no” lol 🤦🏻‍♀️

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So here is a question.

We have a lot of people coming from over seas, its like a destination wedding in reverse almost.

I originally wanted to do welcome bags, but I feel like this is an expense I could definitely skip. Do you think it is something I should do or do you think I could skip it.

View Quoted Comment I definitely think you can skip it if it’s causing you stress in any way (like either stress of doing it, stress financially, or both). Welcome bags are a nice touch if you can, but people don’t really expect them so I don’t think they’ll be missed!

I’m four months away, too! Seriously considering firing my photographer. So much anxiety. Trying to keep things in perspective. Thank God I have my fiancé and wedding planner to bounce ideas off of.

I am a stress ball! I worry about all kinds of different things.

Last night I couldn't sleep because I was stressing about having to pack everything the day after the wedding and having to give my parents certain items to take home after brunch. Like what??? So much going on in my brain

Take breaks when you need to sometimes we forget that we need to practice self care and wedding planning especially can be overwhelming