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Just Said Yes October 2019

4 months before my wedding dad passed away

Caroline, on June 17, 2019 at 1:03 AM Posted in Community Conversations 1 7
Just last week my father passed away at 82 years old In a freak accident. Growing up my biggest fear was my father missing my major milestones in my life such as graduation. Once I graduated my biggest fear was my daddy not making it to walk me down the aisle. Here I am 4 months before my wedding living out my nightmare. Postponing the wedding is out of the question due to my sisters wedding being called off last year. Needless to say I believe my father wouldn’t want that either. Any suggestions on how I can cope with this? I have no energy to even finish planning it. Also, any suggestions on unique ways for my wedding to make sure my dad is present like memorials?

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Latest activity by latasha, on June 17, 2019 at 9:13 AM
  • Amanda
    Master December 2020
    Amanda ·
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    I'm so sorry to hear this! Some suggestions I have are you can have a charm made to go on your bouquet, hold a picture of him to "walk you down the isle" then put the picture on "his seat", send off lanterns or have a song or something in memory of him, etc. Hope this helps, hope for fast healing Smiley heart he is with you always
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  • Courtney
    Dedicated October 2019
    Courtney ·
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    I’m so sorry. I don’t know if this will help you cope, all I can say is let yourself grieve, don’t try to hold back tears every time. When my dad passed 6 years ago, i didn’t let myself grieve fully and it nearly broke me.

    As for memorial ideas I got mini picture frames from michaels to put on the back of my shoes.

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  • Lynne
    Super August 2022
    Lynne ·
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    I'm sorry for your loss.
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  • A
    Devoted July 2020
    Ali ·
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    Have a memorial table for family and friends that candy be there, whether because they have passed or because they just couldn't make it. Or a pocket, use a piece of one of his shirts as your something blue, make a keep it garter from one of his shirts, play your mom and his wedding song at your wedding (maybe to walk down the aisle to), play a song that meant a lot to you and your dad while you're making your entrance.
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  • MrsJohansson
    Expert June 2019
    MrsJohansson ·
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    Very sorry to read that you lost your father. You are not alone, I lost my dad 4 days before Xmas and now he is not here to see me get married in 8 days. Since this happened so recently for you, it will feel like hell but the pain eases a bit in time. Your dad would probably not want you to postpone the wedding, he would want you to be happy and to live your dreams.

    Find a way of remembering him and even it making it like he is there. When my father died, we still dished Christmas supper and put it at the table and seat where he always sat. You could do something similar at your wedding. The ideas about memorial accessories and a memorial table are also really awesome ideas.


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  • Sharon
    Super September 2021
    Sharon ·
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    I'm so sorry for your loss and the pain you're going through now. All of the above are great ideas. Another thing you might want to do is take something of his, maybe his wedding ring, and pin it (or sew it depending on what is) inside your dress close to your heart. It will be a very emotional day but he will be right there with you.
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  • latasha
    VIP September 2019
    latasha ·
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    I’m so sorry for your loss. This pain is indescribable. I too lost my father recently and it has been agonizing trying to plan a wedding without him. Let yourself grieve but remind yourself that he would be sooo happy at your wedding. It will be sad, you will be emotional but that’s ok. I ended up changing my wedding colors to include his favorite color, I will have a locket with his picture on my bouquet and I also took one of his ties and will take a piece of it, embroider it with my wedding date and sew it onto the inside of my dress. My thoughts are with you and your family. I truly hope you can find the strength and peace to move forward with this.
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