3Rd marrriage

Hello, I am just wondering- what does he add to your life? You stated you have four kids, are in school, and he just moved in with you. You said he isn't working due to a work injury, but does he have career goals that will give him the ability to take care of you and your children long term? What will getting married now instead of two tears from now change?

Hi there. Why did you two move in together? Was it because you two were ready emotionally or was their a hint of financial need? Is he on Disability currently? I can understand your hesitation not just with career ambitions, but you are rather young to marry someone with a fixed income or no income. Discuss your personal financial habits, short-term goals (5 yrs), and long-term goals (5+). Confirm verbally that your children will be heirs to your property, assets, etc. If needed, discuss a pre-nup. Waiting two more years to marry may appear like you're not serious about this man, but you just started getting to know each other as cohabitants. It takes time to discuss dreams and preferred lifestyles. You may know what you don't want from your prior marriages, but what do you want? What do you two want to build together in your middle age and elderly years> And just to add, though this may not be the case, people marry just for a home no matter their age.

It sounds like you’re being much more careful this time, which is a good thing. No one is perfect, but what matters most is communication, support, and shared values. Since he just moved in, giving it a little more time to see how you function together day-to-day might help you feel more confident about the decision. There’s nothing wrong with making sure the foundation is strong before rushing into marriage.