3 weeks away, no one excited

You and FH are the only ones who really need to be excited. Everyone else is living their lives (and their lives don’t revolve around your wedding). It’s a tough pill to swallow. But it’s true. They have their babies, their families, their jobs etc. to focus on... while you have your wedding on the forefront of your mind. They will be present there as guests etc. But to expect them to have your wedding on their mind is a bit unrealistic. Also, just because they don’t ask does it mean they don’t “care”. You are the bride, so you’re not supposed to sit back if you need help, you initiate it. If they’re available to help… Great. If not, you keep moving forward with planning and doing tasks for YOUR wedding. it’s really no one else’s obligation.

Can’t you just work on your projects with your fiancé?

I agree with the previous poster. It is such an exciting day and of course people are happy for you but at the same time their lives don't revolve around your wedding day. I don't mean to be harsh or rude but they have their own lives to lead. Also it is nice for people to help with planning and set up but ultimately that is up to you and your fiance for any planning and preparation. At the end of the day you will be very excited for someone else's wedding but is that all you're going to want to talk about it think about when you have your own life to lead? The reason that I'm being straightforward with you is because at the end of the day you should not let other peoples interest or lack of interest in your wedding choose how you feel. You're about to have an amazing wedding day even though it is a lot of work and stress and you are about to marry the man of your dreams and that right there should make you excited even if others are not showing that interest. However on the day of your wedding people are going to be very excited and happy for you. I think you're just really stressed about the wedding and that's where a lot of these feelings are coming from and that is normal but don't let this stuff get you down because you have an exciting day to look forward to in less than a month.

This seems normal to me. The fact that they want to bring more people and ask you questions tells me they do care and are excited, but they might not express it in the way you want. I did all of my diy projects by myself, I wouldn’t have even thought to ask people to spend time doing that. Plus then they got to be a wonderful surprise when everyone saw them!

Im sorry to hear that. I have found that what I thought would be fun to plan the wedding, but family just wants to give their opinions. Hang in there your day will be amazing no matter what

I’m sorry you’re going through this! Honestly, it would hurt me too. Being that you have this expectation, gives me the impression that you’re the kind of friend that would be there to help your friends with last minute projects and be sure to ask them how things are going. You care about me what the people you care about care about.


I get

Eek I accidentally posted my comment when I wasn’t done. Not sure how to edit so I’ll just continue here.


We can’t expect everyone to act the way we would act or wish they would.
Especially any of of your friends with kids, their lives are preoccupied with more important things than your wedding day.
Try to just enjoy this time! I’m sure on your wedding day they’ll be fully present and excited.

I understand because I feel the same way. If my best friend or sister was getting married, I would do everything I could to help or at least ask how I could help. But, I do understand people have their lives to live but it doesn’t hurt for our love ones to at least ask how everything is going. I get it. I don’t see it as you’re asking for too much at all. I hope everything turns out great as I’m sure it will ☺️

Everyone will be excited the day of the wedding I’m sure! The wedding is the center of your lives at the moment, but everyone has lives to lead outside of it.

My family and best friend don't live here and we don't talk to his family really so it's basically just my FH and I who are excited. I talk to my co-workers because they ask me about it but that's about it and I don't mind at all!

Everyone has lives of their own. Your guests will be excited the day of. For everyone else, it's just a day. I've been to many weddings and have been in one, and while I was excited the day of, I rarely thought about it prior to the day. It's not that people don't care, it's that they can't put their whole lives on hold just for your one day. I don't mean to sound harsh, but it's the truth. I've been planning our wedding 1,500 miles from home, I'd love it if I had more help from friends and family, but the reality is that I had to do a lot of things alone or with FH. My mom has helped a bunch, but that's about it.

I can relate my moh has yet to plan my bachelorette party or order her dress and we have 3 months to the wedding. She seems completely annoyed whenever I bring up the wedding.


I would reach out to friends and family and let them know you need help.

A lot of people aren't interested in wedding planning. I'm sure they're still excited to celebrate the day with you, though! As PPs mentioned, nobody will be as excited for your wedding as you are