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Just Said Yes October 2022

3 dads—- who walks down the aisle?

Kaylee, on February 27, 2022 at 8:46 AM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 7

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My dad situation is rather complicated, and honestly I’m not even near as stressed about everything else as I am about figuring out who is walking me down the isle. To put things into perspective:

-My bio dad left when I was young and we reconnected when I was older. We aren’t extremely close, but he did offer to pay a significant chunk into the wedding itself which has been a huge help. -my 1st “step dad” adopted me when I was 3 and has been who I have known as dad my whole life. -my other step dad has known me since I was 8 and has also been an extremely important person in my life.
Is there a way I can have each of them walk me down the isle in some way? I was thinking have my bio dad walk me down a small portion of the way in the beginning and then as I get closer have him pass me on to my dad and my step dad and have them give me away? Is there a better way to do this?

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Latest activity by Tiffany, on June 7, 2022 at 12:06 PM

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Grace · on February 27, 2022 at 12:29 PM
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Having all three walk you down the aisle would be cool but could be complicated. It might be easier to pull off all three of them alternating in your father daughter dance (if you’re doing one). For me personally, I think the one who you call dad and adopted you should be the one to walk you down the aisle BUT you know better than I do who you’re closest to. You could also walk yourself down the aisle or have your mom walk you down.
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JA · on February 27, 2022 at 1:24 PM
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I agree with PP, You could, but it would be a lot. I'd say either pick one, and have the others do readings, or have all 3 walk you the whole way. You could also do 1 walking down 1 does a reading, and one does the dance. Theres a bunch of ways to delegate this!
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Just Said Yes October 2022
Kaylee · on February 27, 2022 at 2:09 PM
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I did think about going alone or having my mom do it. I just feel bad because I am the only daughter at least with my dad and step dad. I am closer with them, so I thought I would just do the two of them. I guess the hard part is my bio dad offered to help which was nice, but I feel like now I should have him do something big like that because of it? I guess it’s hard to explain. I’m just really stuck on what to do
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Holly · on February 28, 2022 at 12:28 PM
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I think it’s really common to struggle with something like guilt when someone pays for your wedding or a chunk of it. The idea being that he did you such a huge favor on such an important day, and now it wouldn’t be fair to exclude him.

If you want it to be at the ceremony explicitly, I would either go with your gut and have those 2 walk you down on either side, (and then maybe you could dance with all 3) or something a little less conventional but maybe less complicated than having to switch in and out. You could walk down with your mom, and have the three of them stand beside the aisle with a flower that matches your bouquet, and take the flower as you walk by.
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Samantha · on March 1, 2022 at 8:10 AM
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Maybe have all three of them walk in front of you or behind you, and you walk alone. I think its awkward when someone walks halfway and passes the bride off, and the other dad has to either backtrack or follow behind awkwardly. Or walk alone and have all three up front to give you a kiss or hug before passing you off. Lots of options!
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Ashlee · on March 1, 2022 at 3:10 PM
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Maybe you can have bio dad and 2nd stepdad walk you a portion, then your dad (1st stepdad) walks you the rest of the way and is the one to do the "handoff"
I personally don't love the handoff but I've seen some really well handled
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Just Said Yes October 2022
Tiffany · on June 7, 2022 at 12:06 PM
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I'm struggling with an extremely similar situation! Ugh! Best of luck
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