3 bridesmaid & 3 groomsmen

This is a touchy one. If your wedding party are from different parts of your life, and do not know each other, it can go either way. Some may feel this is a new friend circle, and be happy to participate in chats or Facebook group, or conference calls. But at least as many are happy that you the bride are their friend, but have no interest in getting to know people they will briefly meet 3-4 times for the wedding. They will rarely respond to texts, won't want to talk dresses and hair and makeup before 5-6 month ( when they are picked out), may not be interested in any getting to know you parties or group spa things. They are not looking for new friends. They committed to getting a dress by 4 months, an afternoon or evening for a shower, and the same for a batch. No interest in multiday things with other wedding party people. As bride, you need to realize how the different people feel, and adjust your expectations. All the reality TV and wedding websites in the world cannot make 3 individual friends of yours, into a team who are friends who want to spend time together, if they individually do not want it. A lot of brides set up weekly or monthly chats, do parties, try talking dresses at a year or 10 months out, just like the WW suggests. And are really upset when 1, half, or all blow this off as unwanted, too early, or pressured contact with people they want nothing to do with except for a shower and the wedding. Realize that both perspectives are legit, and set what you do by that, not what other groups do. Too many brides and MOH or BM face off early because bride is making overtures , and some don't respond. Talk to your people, ask don't tell. Remember BM and MOH are supposed to be honorary, event focused positions, not workers, planners, or people with great obligations, who only do what they volunteer to do, not things you assign, and you will be fine. Good communications starts with reasonable expectations.

View Quoted Comment Thanks Judith, you definitely gave me a different perspective on this matter. You are absolutely right. I guess I was of the mindset that I wanted everyone to bond and get to know each other beyond the surface before the wedding came so we wouldn’t be taking awkward pictures and the vibe was off. I figured it was a such a small wedding party everyone could in theory get to know each other which would make planning and participating in activities that much more perfect. Everyone’s here to do be apart of the wedding and if it happens that a friend or two is made because of it perfect, but that’s not the goal to be buddy buddy. I didn’t think about it like this but it makes perfect sense.

View Quoted Comment They are all there because they care for you.

I'm having zero people in my wedding party. If I did have a wedding party then I would have them meet each other during a zoom meeting or an outdoor event.

There's no need for them to meet or stay in contact for the next two years. They're just standing in the same vicinity at a wedding, they don't need to be besties.

I have the exact same numbers. My sister is my MOH, my daughter is a bridesmaid & a very close friend is another bridesmaid. Obviously my sister & daughter have a relationship & they’ve met my other bridesmaid. I send out a group text, as well as individual texts. My fiancé still hasn’t decided on groomsmen- except his son who’s 21 & will either be his best man or a groomsmen. That’s on him to organize that show!

I just set up a group chat and that's where they got to introduce themselves