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Savvy November 2021

2Nd wedding

Alyssa, on June 30, 2020 at 5:02 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 6

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Back in April I found out my mom was terminal and wouldn’t make it to our wedding in May next year. We knew we had to do a small ceremony so she could be included, which we did this last weekend. She was so happy and I’m glad we did it. We are now wondering how to handle the second wedding since we will be legally married. Things like invites, for example, do I include my married name and say we are doing a second wedding? People have been so understanding, and I know we are just overthinking it. But we don’t want to treat it like a vow renewal and are okay acknowledging that we are already legally married, just not sure how others in similar situations have approached it?

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Latest activity by Meghan, on July 1, 2020 at 10:56 AM

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Melle · on June 30, 2020 at 5:08 PM
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You can say stuff like please join the recently married mr and mrs ___ for their wedding celebration
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Jasmine · on June 30, 2020 at 5:09 PM
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That's very unfortunate. Sorry to hear that. Congrats by the way and I think it's great that you were able to do something to still include your mother. It will be a renewal for sure so you can definitely use your married name. Instead of saying "the wedding of" you can just say "the renewal of" or something like that.
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Caytlyn · on June 30, 2020 at 5:09 PM
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I agree with PP, I would call it a vow renewal or a celebration of marriage. If you're changing your name before then, yes, you would use your married name. Your invites should have your current name.
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KitandKaboodle · on June 30, 2020 at 8:14 PM
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Sorry to hear about your mother's condition. I would purchase invitations that say "We're married! Please join us for a post-wedding celebration on (date).
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Mrs.a · on July 1, 2020 at 8:06 AM
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I’m so sorry to hear that...that’s part of the reason we’re rushing to get married, because FMIL is ill and battling cancer. She actually brought it up to FH last year about getting married/engaged lol so here we are.
I would treat it as a Marriage Celebration. I would use your current/married name.
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Meghan · on July 1, 2020 at 10:56 AM
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I am so sorry to hear about your mother, but how amazing that she was able to see you get married!!!
I like the "wedding celebration" wording. I am sure most, if not all of, your guests know you already got married and understand the circumstances. So they will understand this is still a wedding they are attending.
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