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2Nd time bride 1st wedding

CountryBride, on September 25, 2020 at 2:15 PM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 12
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My fiancé's Aunt spoke her mind about our wedding and for some reason I am letting it effect me, I was married when I was 18 and divorced by 21. I had a backyard wedding and didn't get to pick my wedding dress colors didn't have dancing. Fast forward, I am with a man who for some reason loves me so much and my kids he treats me like a queen and still finds ways to love me even when it's hard to love myself, He is perfect to me. I have had 7 kids from my previous relationship and together we have 1. his family likes me and are excited for the wedding, My fiancé has never been married before. so it's his first and is excited for the wedding and we decided to do a wedding that we can afford, His aunt said that she thinks we should spend the money on the kids however my fiancé and I want a wedding with the bells and whistles and to reflect our family. is it wrong to want a big wedding even though I am a 2nd time bride and it's my fiancé's first or should we just have a small wedding and be done with it?

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Latest activity by Bo Miller, on September 30, 2020 at 2:26 PM
  • Molly
    Rockstar September 2020
    Molly ·
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    I think you should do whatever you both want to do with your wedding, as long as you arnt taking any money that you would have been spending on your children's needs to pay for the wedding. Which I am sure that you are not. It is not wrong to want your dream wedding!

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  • L
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    Lisa Online ·
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    If you and your fiance are able to financially afford the wedding you want, I say go for it!! You deserve the wedding of your dreams! People seem to always have an opinion on what others do, but you and your fiance's opinions are the only two that matter in this case.
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  • Lynn
    Savvy April 2021
    Lynn ·
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    Your story sounds like mine this is my second marriage but first wedding my first marriage I got married I have two kids and now I found a wonderful man that will love my two kids and actually wants to adopt my two kids because my previous husband is basically a deadbeat and has not been in my kids life since we got a divorce but anyway this is his first marriage the only difference is he doesn’t want any kids but I feel the same way you should do whatever Your heart desires this is yours and your fhday if you can afford it then go for it that’s exactly what me and my fh is doing
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  • Cyndy
    Rockstar May 2019
    Cyndy ·
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    If you are able to financially have a big wedding then you should do what you and your fiancé want to do. Don’t worry about what others say.
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  • Chrysta
    Rockstar November 2021
    Chrysta Online ·
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    Sounds to me like his aunt needs to mind her own business! You both deserve the wedding of your dreams- have it and ENJOY it!!
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  • Jai Butcher
    Rockstar May 2020
    Jai Butcher ·
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    Go for the dream! Ignore the aunt's comments, she was out of line and rude for that. It's your day! Enjoy the moment
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  • Jasmine
    Rockstar February 2021
    Jasmine ·
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    Don't let anyone tell you what you should or shouldn't do. If you guys are able to move forward with the wedding that you want, then I say go for it. I'm a 2nd time bride, first wedding as well. I mean I don't have kids but it shouldn't matter. If your kids are already well taken care of and you can afford a wedding, I don't see the issue.

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  • T
    Expert April 2021
    Tiger Bride ·
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    You had 7 kids in 3 years? Dang girl! That's impressive!

    From your aunt's perspective, she is probably looking at this as - you have 8 children, which is a huge financial responsibility for almost anyone. Are y'all debt free? Do you have money put aside in case something happens to either one of you? Kids' college? Etc. If you do, and she's talking out her behind, just brush it off. But if you are spending $$,$$$ on a wedding when you aren't financially stable/able to save/put aside for kids' future and unexpected events, then I can see where she's coming from.

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  • CountryBride
    Dedicated April 2022
    CountryBride ·
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    Sorry for the confusion lol I had 7 kids in a course of 10 years but never got engaged, My fiancé and I are stable we don't have really in debt just the normal house payment and car payments we do contribute to the kids college funds each month and have a emergency fund that we contribute to monthly and anything extra were putting towards the wedding, She is recently divorced I understand she was coming from a good place. but we would never let our kids go without just to get married, Were not wanting some expensive wedding we just want a nice traditional family wedding to celebrate us and becoming a family

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  • Michelle
    Expert April 2021
    Michelle ·
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    Girl-DONT YOU DARE!!! I’m in your exact same boat! I’ve been married before but have never had a wedding. Never had my own dress, chose colors- absolutely nothing. My fiancé has never been married. When I mentioned we should get married before a cruise (we’re avid cruisers) & use the cruise as our honeymoon, he flat out vetoed it. He wants all the bells & whistles. At 1st I didn’t want to but the more I started thinking about it, the more I wanted it too. He’s giving me the wedding I’ve never had & wants us to celebrate our wedding/marriage. He’s an amazing man & I thank my lucky stars that he’ll be my husband.
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  • MOB So Cal
    January 2019
    MOB So Cal ·
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    You know what? If you and FH don't deserve to have whatever wedding celebration you want to, I don't know who does. I hope you move forward with your plans and celebrate the "official" beginning of your lives together as one big family! Smiley heart

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  • Bo Miller
    Expert November 2021
    Bo Miller Online ·
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    "just move on and smile."

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