2020 Brides not Having a 2021 Celebration

I guess I am not the best to comment as once I hit 30 having a big wedding was not a huge desire for me as I could not see myself spending a lot on one day and would rather have an epic honeymoon. Travel is much more important to me and once I hit my 30's I just thought of money differently granted I love to shop lol. Once my mom passed at 33 I definitely lost the desire to have a wedding and if I could I would have eloped abroad even just me and him.

I can never tell a bride how to feel as I recognize for many foregoing the big wedding is hard and that is a valid way to feel but overall I just want to marry my man and COVID or not I think that is what we all need to remember is that the day is about you two getting married and starting a life together be it with a large wedding or just you two. I would even be disappointed if I could not use the venue I wanted or go to the rooftop restaurant I planned for or have my maid of honor there but I am still going through with my day regardless. I just want to marry him and I wanted to wear a wedding dress and I get to do that so I am happy. I know it is hard but just remember that it is about that feeling of becoming his wife and how special that will feel.

I think Kristen made some excellent points. It is hard to let go of that fairy tale perfect day. I won’t lie and say I do at times get a bit jealous watching Disney weddings TV shows and seeing these couples have amazing days with no worries of if their guests are sitting to close together, what about the food/drink distributions - how to keep things sanitized, etc. They didn’t have to worry about these things like us 2020 brides. I think what is getting me through these hard moments is the support from my FH, my parents, and his parents. Instead of panicking, they all have tried to figure out realistic ways to modify the wedding to make it as safe as possible even if it ends up being super tiny. Have you expressed your stress/concerns to your fiancé or support circle? Even just venting can help sort out thoughts and focus on what can and should be done. The optimism and feedback from other couples on this forum has also helped me continue pushing forward and stay motivated. I hope this makes you feel a bit better that you aren’t alone in these feelings. 💕

I am in the same boat as you. My original date was 6/20/20 and it has been postponed to 10/10/20. We have recently changed the plans...again. We decided that we are getting married that day no matter what is going on with Covid-19. We know that our original big celebration is not going to happen so we are doing something small in our backyard.

I have SO MUCH wedding stuff that I have already purchased that now I am wondering what to do with it.

We didn’t know that we were going to postpone our July date, which had been planned for 2 years, until 3 weeks ago. I’ll be honest, I was in such a bad state of mind about it that I even told my fiancé that I would resent having anything other than our big wedding, which resulted in some extremely (understandably) hurt feelings on his part (because the comment definitely made it seem like I cared more about the wedding than the marriage). After I thought about the day, however, I really tried to narrow down what parts were most important to me (he just wants to be married, so the details of the day aren’t as important to him). At the end of the day, other than marrying my fiancé, I want to say our vows in a beautiful location with beyond epic pictures to help us remember forever. So, with those as priorities, I thought of a wedding that encompasses that, is within COVID regulations, and would help me not feel any regret about the day. That being said, if we don’t get to do our new date this year, we’ll be eloping and then having an anniversary party next year.

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I agree with what she said. I think even you coming here for support can help. I can even admit I have been to plenty of big weddings and I would be lying if I did not say I was not jealous of those weddings or even the ones on instagram but at this time it seems like we need to learn to live with COVID-19 which is a scary truth but may I ask why you can have the wedding you dreamed of? My opinion is the number of guests do not make the wedding rather you feeling like a bride marrying the love of your life. Girl I would have the normal wedding as planned and even if you have to live stream some family in do it. Are you in an area that is open for even a small amount of guests?

I am doing a micro wedding I guess it is called but I am super excited. I have a dress I am in love with, my best friend will be my maid of honor and will stand by my side and is even hosting me a bridal brunch to celebrate with some of my good friends (who does not love to eat? lol) and I am even having 2 photographers and a small two tier cake. I am making the best of the day and making it feel bridal so I can look back and not feel like we ran off to the court house (nothing wrong with that of course) and if worse case scenario my state were to go into lock down which I doubt it will I will get married in my MOH's backyard lol. Girl make that day yours and your future hubby's and live it up.

Hiii! We are doing a small wedding and I have had some hard times this week, the week before our wedding. Just with some road blocks and extra drama. Bridesmaid calling me in panic attack that she’s not coming (I’m okay she’s not just it was what she said) and my FH’s sisters Air B&B just got cancelled due to COVID now they have to stay in a hotel instead.


I think what comes down to it is how it goes, if ever goes well on my day I will feel like it was so worth it and not waiting. I think what will help is what we are excited about. My FH and I are looking forward to buying a house in a few years and cutting our wedding cost down is great for this goal. Also we want to have kids soon. Sure we could have a big party but having a family sounds way more amazing to me!!
And who knows how long this whole COVID thing will go. It could be another year, two, more? I think If things continue, brides that postpones will end up doing the micro weddings anyways.

It has definitely been difficult to accept. My fiancé and I haven’t been planning our wedding for nearly as long as you, but I understand the disappointment. We were originally planning on having 50 guests which is tiny, but have had to narrow it down to 15-20 to accommodate the comfort level of our close parents who don’t even feel comfortable having a reception and cake. At this point I’m like if we have 15 or 150 people at our wedding, reception or no reception, it will not make us any less married and that’s what important. And with the money we will be saving I plan on going on my dream honeymoon!

Thank you so much everyone for all the support. I can’t thank you all enough for your sweet and thoughtful responses. Makes me feel so much better 💕