2 weddings?

This is absolutely not ridiculous! I love the idea of having a small intimate ceremony with just you and your pastor and parents it will be so meaningful. A MIL will always have opinions but do what feels right to you. Your wedding deserves to be celebrated as well with a reception with all your friends and family so I think this plan is great.

Yes I agree with PP it’s not ridiculous marry the love of your life and next year you all can have the reception party with family and friends.

My fiancé and I are doing the same. We are doing a small ceremony this year with our close friends and family and the one we want next year with everybody we want to have involved

That's what we are doing. Our April 25th, 300 person wedding has been banned. We have rescheduled, but already had our marriage license so we are legally getting married on the 25th anyway.
My FMIL spent a few days complaining that it wasn't fair that her friends and family "wouldn't be invited to her only child's REAL wedding and only to the fake one". After that blew over, now I'm in the same boat as you. She told me it is so unnecessary, and when I tried explaining that we really want a day to celebrate our joy and journey with our friends and family who have been there for us, I got told that a marriage isn't about how many people are there, the only people that matter are him and I and we will have already gotten our special day, and wanting to have 2 is being dramatically. Mind you, she just married FHs dad after 22 years in a big 250 person wedding that she only had because we had gotten engaged and she was jealous of the attention 🙄
I guess what I'm trying to say, is do what makes YOU and FH happy. We are absolutely going forward with our plans, and you should too. Every bride deserves to feel special and have whatever celebration she wants.

I don't think it's anyone else's decision but yours. It's your vision not there's, execute it the way you want.

No way! Seems like fun. And helpful under today’s circumstances.

I meant no way, not ridiculous. Two weddings seems fabulous (as long as you want them).