2 wedding etiquette...

I personally, would not do my vows twice.

You can have a vow renewal or just a party. Be honest with your guests that the first date is your official date.

View Quoted Comment My guests know that I am having 2 weddings, but my fiancé’s family will not be able to travel to wedding number 1 and I want them to enjoy the same moment of a full wedding. I like the vow renewal idea... I also have bridesmaids and groomsmen that will not be able to travel to wedding 1 due to covid concerns... so I want them to also get their moment since they invested in this journey with me and purchased the attire.

I’m very traditional. So, I would do traditional vows for the 1st one when you actually get married. And then in you’re comfortable with it, personalized ones for the 2nd.

I don't see why you can't do the same vows twice! Since so many people can't come to wedding1, it'll be nice to have them experience it during wedding2. I'm not traditional, so I like personalized vows over traditional repetitive ones any day!

If you don't have a preference, you could always just do one with traditional vows, and the other with personal vows.

I don't think there's any etiquette around this (beyond making sure the guests at the renewal understand you are already married). You can absolutely say the same vows twice or have two different scripts.

I would not want to say the same vows twice because, for me, the first time would seal the deal and I wouldn't be interested in a reenactment. But that's just for me. Your celebrations are yours to design!

It’s totally up to you. We had a small DW then a local reception three months later but decided not to do the vows again. We did wear wedding attire (I had a different dress), and at our local reception we had dancing and a wedding cake so that was fun.