2 Unity Ceremonies?

Honestly, I would pick 1. It is going to be hard to transition from one to the other.

Ask your officiant what they think. FH and I are doing a unity cross, and then taking communion just us and our pastor right after. Not technically 2 unity ceremonies, but would probably take around the same time as 2. The Ceremony is about the 2 of you (and your 2 families coming together!) so do what you want to to commemorate that! Our pastor told us that our ceremony will be 30-40 minutes total, so just have a chat with whomever is officiating your ceremony!

Hm, perhaps you can tie the two together nicely so that they can transition well.....I can see the importance of doing two (one for your daughter and one for your FH) that's meaningful. also just curious, where in upstate N.Y.?

I'd do one unity moment. Perhaps your FH could present a necklace or bracelet to your daughter after the two of you have said your vows. Your officiant can definitely help with the wording, but something along the lines of the three of you being a family who will love and protect each other.

You've hit some of my maybe yes and maybe no thoughts here so far...maybe I just need to consult with an experienced officiant.

@Sam - Seneca Lake, Ventosa Vineyards outside of Geneva

Hey date twin! Also doing outdoor ceremony. Worried it's going to either be super hot or another hurricane weekend like this weekend. I wouldn't plan to have guests sit through two ceremonies. Pick one.

Date twin!! You're the first I've seen!

I'm far more excited than I should be for this - haha

I'd do the wine at the end as a toast to the guest. You really don't need two unity ceremonies that are so similar. We try to keep our ceremonies right at 20 minutes so with the processional/recessional we're usually right at 30 minutes total, which is what our venues expect. But that being said, we don't have elements like communion, hymns, etc.

FH and I are kind of in the same boat, both of us have a daughter from a prior relationship. We are doing necklaces as a commitment to each girl either doing our rehearsal or during the ceremony itself.

Why not do the wine as a ceremony for you two, and then just address her directly in a paragraph during the ceremony?