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Jenten428
Beginner April 2021

2 separate ceremonies

Jenten428, on July 29, 2019 at 3:30 PM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 5

Both my fiance's parents & my parents are very religious and want us to be married in the Catholic church but I fell in love with an outdoor ceremony venue. Which of course, is a big no-no for Catholic church in California apparently. I have managed to get both sets of parents to agree to having our main ceremony outside and just doing a private catholic ceremony separately. Has anyone done this? We don't know if we should do the catholic ceremony before our main one or later on? It currently isn't feasible to do them the same day

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Latest activity by Kelly, on July 29, 2019 at 5:11 PM
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    Devoted October 2021
    Erin ·
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    If you do your civil ceremony first you can later do what is called a convalidation in the Catholic church which is a ceremony done when a marriage ceremony was not performed in the church for whatever reason and is a blessing that will make your marriage valid in the eyes of the church
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  • Cristy
    Master May 2021
    Cristy ·
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    You may want to consult with your priest about this. The Catholic church can be very strict in it's guidelines/rules, and you don't want to lose the opportunity to get married there. First, if you want to be married by a Catholic priest in your church, you'll probably have to do that first, since, if you get married somewhere else first, it won't be by the Catholic priest/church, and it would be considered a "vow renewal" more than a "marriage ceremony."

    I think it's fine to do both, if that's what your families want. But I would make sure you know the requirements of your church before doing anything.

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  • Kelly
    Champion October 2018
    Kelly ·
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    Is it important for you and your fiancé to get married in the Catholic Church? If it’s only your parents wishes I would tell them too bad.
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  • Kelly
    VIP October 2020
    Kelly ·
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    So there's a lot of things here
    First and foremost if you and your fiance don't want to get married I the church you shouldn't feel pressured too.
    Also some churches have attendance and marriage counseling guidelines that need to be met in order to get married by the church, you should check and see if you meet them.
    If you think they're strict I'll guess and say they won't let a second preform the ceremony at the outdoor location then (unfortunate).
    Overall you should probably do the Catholic ceremony first because preists can sometimes get upset or confused when couple's don't do the actual wedding with them, unless it's convalidation of marriage.
    If you do the Catholic wedding first be sure to tell whomever is conducting the other ceremony so they don't file two marriage certificates.
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  • Kelly
    VIP October 2020
    Kelly ·
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    Ugh auto correct!
    Won't let a deacon* preform outdoor ceremony
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