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2 officiants?

Amanda, on October 20, 2017 at 10:15 AM Posted in Planning 0 8

Hello - Has anyone used 2 officiants? I have a good friend that I want to do it but also a family friend who I've known my whole life who is also a JP. I'm trying to figure out if having 2 of them do the ceremony is feasible. If you've done this or seen it done, any thoughts/suggestions?

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Latest activity by junebride, on October 20, 2017 at 8:51 PM
  • Annie
    VIP October 2018
    Annie ·
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    Why not have the good friend do a reading during the ceremony? Depending what state you're in you might run into issues with having your friend perform the ceremony, so you're probably better off with having the JP do it while having your friend do a reading.

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  • Celia Milton
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    Have the JP do the ceremony and sign the paperwork, have your friend do a reading.

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  • Nicole2017
    Master August 2017
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    A coworker of mine did this for an double faith wedding. She said it was kind of a shit show as the two didn't communicate like they should have beforehand. I'd recommend having a set officiant and the other do a reading.

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  • Lynnie
    WeddingWire Administrator October 2016
    Lynnie ·
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    A lot of people will have two officiants if they are getting married in a place of worship but also want to have a friend or outside officiant - in this case the place of worship may have some requirements about what their parish rules are. I've also seen two officiants for inter-faith weddings.

    I think if you want to include a friend then also having a pro there to take the reins and split duties is super helpful. I second the suggestion to have the JP officiate and your friend do a reading!

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  • Crystal
    Devoted July 2018
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    I'm planning on having 2 officants. My aunt is a ordained minister and it would mean nothing more for her to share in my day. My fiancee would like someone close to him he knows. Instead of any disagreement. We compromised, hopefully it will flow and blend with what needs to be said from theirs hearts nicely. Meeting at the rehearsal and getting the feel should help and they can discuss who can do what and when.

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  • Aly
    Expert June 2018
    Aly ·
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    I've been to a wedding ceremony that had two officiants to represent the two different faiths of the couple- which made sense. Otherwise, it would feel a bit clunky with too many cooks in the kitchen.

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  • Nancy Taussig
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    I was a guest at a wedding where the bride's grandfather read most of the ceremony, but since he was not legally authorized to officiate weddings, the minister from that church did what was required by law and the church. The grandfather kept messing up (losing his place, repeating paragraphs, etc.).

    I was a guest at another wedding that was Jewish & Protestant. They had a rabbi and a minister and everything appeared fine. Rabbi signed the ketubah and I think the minister signed the license.

    I have co-officiated a couple of times. One bride wanted her grandfather, a retired minister to take care of the religious parts and with me taking care of the legal bits. I spoke with him right before the ceremony and everything went well.

    Another couple wanted a family friend who is a judge to officiate. But he had no jurisdiction in FL. He did a ceremony while I sat in the back. Afterward, I took care of the legal bits and signed the license.

    Another couple wanted their newly-ordained online friend to officiate, but there was a chance she would be called out of town on emergency business. I suggested they hire me and if it worked out that she could be there, we'd share the ceremony. She was there and was a nervous wrecking messing up the vows. I took care that all the legally required bits were satisfied and signed the license.

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  • junebride
    Savvy June 2019
    junebride ·
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    My parents had 2 officiants, each of their pastors growing up. They just split things kind of naturally. I've watched their wedding video, and it worked well for them. The person who signed the license did the legal parts.

    I'm of the opinion, if you want to have 2 and have a good reason- go for it! It's your day!

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