2 ceremonies, 2 different states

Two ceremonies?? So which one is going to be your actual wedding?

Try to make them rather different so it's harder for you to directly compare them.

The one is Ny will be the legal one... I want my dad to give me away at the legal one

I am keeping my theme the same just making little changes here and there... the venue style Is different though

So are you having two receptions as well? Because if you are inviting someone to a ceremony, you thank them for their attendance with a reception.

Maybe have the NY one be more traditional (if that's what you like) since you want your dad to walk you down and do something informal but beautiful for Florida maybe around somewhere scenic. Or maybe in one you decide to have a ceremony in a church and the other somewhere scenic (if you or FH are religious)

A friend of mine did this. One here in Hawaii where they live and one back home for her family. The one here was more intimate so it was done at the beach and we went to their favorite restaurant afterwards. She told me that the one back home was just going through the motions (so no certificate was signed) for the sake of her family and her family actually planned everything out and made it a huge bbq party instead of the bride and groom planning anything. Her family wanted to witness everything so they totally took the reins and made sure all they had to do was make the flight out to them. It was sweet.

So why not have a small personal ceremony and two receptions?

I had one in the states and one in Eastern Europe. The one in Europe we just had a big dinner celebration with 170 of my hubby's friends and family. We skipped the ceremony so it was really just the reception. I was still in a wedding dress though and we had cake.

The one in the states was when we had our ceremony. Again we had a reception with mostly my family and friends.

Good thing the one in Europe was super cheap though. It was like $3-4K for the 170 people.

Two ceremonies, two receptions... my FH and I feel that is the way to do it that... the one is NY will be the larger of the two for sure. The one in Florida will be at the head one of our beautiful crystal clear springs that him and I love to kayak, the one in NY is going to be a rustic barn wedding

The one here is florida is mainly for his parents... they are in their 70s.. he mom had a stroke a little over a year ago. We are going to keep that one at 50-70 people

Will everyone at the Florida ceremony know that you actually are already married? That they're actually witnessing a do-over of vows and etc?

Yes of course they will... we are preparing separate vows for each ceremony

Yes of course they will... we are preparing separate vows for each ceremony