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2 Bridesmaids and 5 groomsmen. Using SIL?

Sabrina, on October 27, 2017 at 4:59 PM Posted in Planning 0 2

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I initially had 4 bridesmaids and now I have 2, I was born and raised in South Africa then spent 9 years in New Zealand and moves cities twice so didn't make friends in NZ. Wedding is in USA. Making the trip is expensive and 40hrs each way so 2 pulled out, which I understand. FH initally wanted 6 but decided on 5. I know it doesn't matter in the big picture having uneven numbers but does anyone have pictures so I can see what this might look like? FMIL wants me to use FH sister, but I'm not feeling it and feeling guilty for not using her at the same time. She got married in May just past and I didn't get an invite, or my name on FH invite or even a +1 next to it (we were already engaged when they got married) she thought I didn't need one cause I might not be there? Anyway, I haven't even met her either. His parents are paying for about 60% of our wedding as THEY feel it's right because 100 guests are 90 of his friends and family and 10 of mine (distance) arg it's frustrating!!

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Latest activity by Thais, on October 27, 2017 at 5:32 PM

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TXBride · on October 27, 2017 at 5:24 PM
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DO NOT include anyone in your bridal party who you don't love and adore and want by your side for the big day. My best friend had 3 bridemaids and 6 groomsmen and it looked fine. I don't have pics right now but the guys stood 2 rows deep to counteract.
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Thais · on October 27, 2017 at 5:32 PM
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I totally understand!

DH and I have been together for almost 6 years. His only sister never really liked me at first and didn't start talking/being friendly to me 'till last year. We got engaged this past December.
For some reason, she thinks she's in the bridal party. I'm not saying that I'm holding grudges (maybe I am, but I'm trying my very best not to), but I would rather have people I'm comfortable with beside me on that very special day! His parents aren't paying for anything, but even if they were, I would still feel the same.

As of now, I'm over the fence. Gonna wait till next year and see what happens.
Maybe things will change, maybe they will stay the same or worsen. Who knows.
I rather not ask her JUST YET, though.

If you don't feel comfortable having her as a bridesmaid, have her do a reading or give a speech instead. That's what I might do for mine.
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