16 year old sister or my 24 year old cousin as Maid of Honor

You shouldn't ask any maid of honor to help out financially with a wedding. Do you mean that she might not be able to afford the dress? Maybe your parents could help. It might be hard for your sister to plan a bachelorette party if she's under age. Even if you did something like painting with a twist she would not be able to participate. You could always have two maids of honor.

Why don't you just have bridesmaids and no moh. This way you don't have to decide and both women will feel included in your big day without any added pressure or responsibilities

Your MOH should be whomever you feel you're closest to. Your sister isn't "too young" and the only thing that may be affected is your choice in bachelorette activities. But if you wanted them both to be maids of honor that is a valid option as well.

The only role or responsibility of anybody in your BP is to show up in the attire you select, so there's no responsibilities you should be researching for either of them.

Your MOH should be the one you’re closest to. There isn’t really a role for being a MOH besides standing next to you. Perhaps your mom is concerned your sister wouldn’t be able to host a bridal shower or bachelorette for you. And even though that’s not to be expected, having your sister be your MOH doesn’t mean she has to take on the full workload of all of that. Should your cousin or mom choose to, they could certainly help with all that. I really don’t think your cousin will be offended your sister is your MOH.

Pick who you want. The only job of any attendant (MOHN, BM, etc.) is to show up in the dress reasonably sober (or sober in your sisters case since she's underage). The title us meant to be for the person that is closest to you and that you want standing next to you at your wedding.

I was my sister's MOH when I was almost 15. It meant the world to me and worked out fine.

Your moh should be someone who you can trust and know will be there for support. If you believe that person is your sister i see nothing wrong with it

My MOH is my 13 year old sister. (will be 14 at time of wedding). She is willing to help put together DIY projects and go dress shopping with me but she cannot plan a shower or even join the batchelorette party unless we do something that isn't 21 and older (and none of that should be expected of your MOH/Bridesmads). Even if my MOH was 21 or older or financially independent, i would not expect her to buy things for our wedding.

The only issue with her being 16 would be if she is capable of planning the events that a MOH usually does, such as the shower and you'd obviously have to delegate the bachelorette party to someone else if you plan on having alcohol. If you have other people in the bridal party that would take on that responsibility then I say go with your sis. If not I'd maybe consider having 2 (maybe have your sis and cousin be co MOHs) or picking someone else. I have been in a few weddings and MOH once and the amount of responsibility has varied by the bride. Some have wanted a lot of help and support and some just needed us to show up and enjoy the day with her. So it depends on that kind of bride you think you'll be.

Well to clarify, my bridal shower and Bachelorette party will be very clean, no drinking.. I expect a nice little get together... the gifts I guess would be a little something to be concerned of because of certain friends in my life lol but other than that, I think she's mature enough to be included. My cousin most likely will feel some type of way because we are practically like sisters, but at the same time, I just don't have that same bond with her anymore. Maybe I won't have a maid of honor and thank you all for the VERY quick replies!

So I have a story that might help! My cousin got married this past May and she had her younger sister as her MOH who is couple years younger then your sister. But she had one of her friends as a BM/ MOH to help with her little sister. But mostly my cousins parents took care of everything the MOH (little sister) just attended all the wedding events and did what she could!

Why not pick both...??

True role of a MOH is to show up on the day, dressed in what you have specified and preferably not obviously drunk. That's it. I'm sure your sister can handle it.

Why not make them both bridesmaids? Just tell them that you are so close to them all that you couldn't pick just one woman to be your MOH.

No party is required if any BM or MOH to host. No one is entitled to a shower or bachelorette.

My 19 year old sister is my MOH. My parents are paying for her dress and any other expenses. She's still coming to my bachelorette since we are just going to rent a large beach house. But my bridesmaids are planning most of that since they're older

My sister will be 19 when I get married and she's my MOH!! I'm just expecting her to show up! She shouldn't be spending anything on the wedding unless she wants too!

Pick your sister. You said yourself she is more mature and understands more. I don't feel like her age makes her any less competent. You said you also trust her more.

Also, The MOH is not financially responsible for any part of the wedding .Maybe your cousin can sign the license since you will need a witness over 18.

Your sister seems like the clear answer. The MOH isn't meant to handle anything financially but her own dress, same as bridesmaids. The maid of honor is someone you can trust to do things you need on your big day for you physically and emotionally be your support and your wedding planners helper. I say sister all the way

Your sister sounds like the better fit

I don't think she should matter all that much. If you think she can handle be your right hand at your wedding it's your day your way.