Haley
Beginner December 2021

12/18/2021 wedding - is this selfish?

Haley, on September 25, 2021 at 9:05 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 18
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To be honest, when we booked our wedding I didn’t think choosing the Saturday before Christmas for our wedding as selfish. But now that it’s approaching, I’m feeling selfish. The situation was that we wanted a wedding at this specific venue, their dates filled up insanely quickly, and the “off-season” discount saved us money. Is it selfish to be planning our wedding on the Saturday before Christmas? Ugh, now I feel awful Smiley sad

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Latest activity by Tiger Bride, on September 29, 2021 at 3:14 PM
  • I_Do_Too
    Devoted September 2020
    I_Do_Too ·
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    Its not Dec 24-26 so I don’t think thats selfish.
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  • C
    Savvy April 2023
    Chelsea ·
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    Not really. It might be nice for most people. So maybe they're missing one night of Holiday parties but it's not like you're doing it every year. If there are people who are gonna be slammed with $1200 flights per person at arguably the most delay ridden time of year I'd just send them a note and say "I'd love for you attend but I know travel is insane this time of year, please feel no pressure to fly out. Because of Covid we had limited date choices. Zoom in for the ceremony and/or we can party with you next time you visit" Something like that.

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  • Jacks
    Master September 2019
    Jacks Online ·
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    I feel like it's OK. Hopefully Covid will be better, and you can include some holiday cheer! Have you been receiving negative feedback? As long as your nearest and dearest are fine with it, no big deal.

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  • Sexypoodle
    Master October 2021
    Sexypoodle ·
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    Not at all!
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  • Jasmine E.
    Rockstar May 2022
    Jasmine E. ·
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    I think it's fine. It doesn't fall on the holiday and people may be lucky enough to be off work already. Though, if you're worried about your wedding being close to a holiday, you should probably sort that out right when you start planning rather than waiting till less than 3 months out.
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    Master January 2019
    Cassidy ·
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    I don’t think it’s selfish. (Our wedding was less than a month after Christmas).
    Some people that have to travel for Christmas may not be able to make it if travel is also required for the wedding. It might be a welcome distraction from the stresses of the season (shopping, wrapping, baking).
    We had some family who chose to skip traveling for Christmas so they could travel for the wedding. So that’s something that may happen as well. At this point I think it’s too late to worry about if was selfish since it’s done and can’t be changed. So don’t give yourself the added stress. You are fine don’t worry.
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar April 2021
    Michelle ·
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    You’re fine! It’s not selfish at all.
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar October 2022
    Michelle ·
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    As long as you gave guests advance notice with save the dates, it’s fine. One of my best friends got married on Dec 21 in the middle of the week because it was a sentimental date for them and they had a full house.
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  • Fiona
    Devoted May 2024
    Fiona Online ·
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    I don't think it's selfish at all. Christmas is a great time for love and family and friends being together so why not do that at a wedding Smiley smile.

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  • CountryBride
    VIP April 2022
    CountryBride ·
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    Your fine I think it would be fun
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  • B
    Dedicated June 2023
    bevbabe ·
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    I don't think it's a big deal.

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  • Yasmine
    Rockstar October 2020
    Yasmine ·
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    It's not selfish at all!
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  • Emilia
    Expert June 2019
    Emilia ·
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    Hi ! I don't think that's selfish at all ! I would love to be invited to such a wedding, something nice to celebrate still while waiting for Christmas...

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    January 1895
    Jessa ·
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    I will preface this comment by saying you have done absolutely nothing wrong in scheduling your wedding for the date that works for you and your VIP's.

    I don't think its selfish in the way that most people think of it. But, if you think of it as lacking some consideration for others....hmmmm it could border on that to some people. Because how you consider something is completely from your own point of view. If I live far from you and have to travel the weekend before Christmas: I might think its inconsiderate. I live in the same city: not inconsiderate at all.

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  • B
    Devoted August 2022
    Bride2Be ·
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    Not at all! It’s your wedding and you have it when you want to! People can still go and celebrate Christmas ON christmas and they will plan accordingly so don’t you fret!
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  • Bonnie
    Savvy December 2021
    Bonnie ·
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    I’m doing 12/20….the Monday of Christmas week. Lol it’s not selfish at all! Most of our guests don’t care and haven’t said it’s interferes with any plans. I’ve had 100 out of 150 RSVP already so obviously it’s not much of an issue. I was courteous and sent out the invites early so people can plan accordingly
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  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I don't think it is. people are more than welcome to rsvp no if they can't make it. that's the date that worked best for YOU.

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    Super April 2021
    Tiger Bride ·
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    I think this is fine, because Christmas is a Saturday this year. If it were a Monday or the middle of the week it would be a little more difficult, but this should be fine!

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