10 Year Vow Renewal

If you want to have YOUR day, then you get to do it however you want! Have fun!

Amanda,

Congratulations! What an exciting event...I love vow renewals. I don't think that either is too much...as PP said, it's YOUR day...enjoy it and now that you have spent 10 years with your hubby, it will be even MORE special!

I think you should do whatever you want and can afford.

Good for you Amanda on planning your vow renewal. Hubby and I are planning our 10 Year Vow Renewal next year and we're going all out. We also had a small wedding the first time in 2004, which was perfect, but now we want to celebrate 10 years with a Vow Renewal.

We're going all out. I'm getting a new dress made, we have cocktail hour, reception, second honeymoon to Aruba, photographer, photo booth, videographer, the works! Our original wedding had a MOH and BM and they are standing up for us again.

You do it the way you want to do it and happy planning And congrats!

I've officiated many vow renewals (and DH & I did one for our 20th). Wives have worn their original gowns, new gowns, more casual dresses -- whatever they want.

Do what you want honey.

Really. Especially if it was a budget that limited your original ceremony.

Wouldn't advise the pre-events (shower/bachelorette) and perhaps leave a registry off the invites - make sure guests know it's a vow renewal and please don't take offence if some seem less excited than about a original wedding.

Aside from that (those seem to be some of the main issues folk have with vow renewals from what I've seen) go nuts!

Everyone deserves that special day and I honestly don't see the issue with having an all out vow renewal. Not everyone can have the wedding they want the first shot, but those without the funds can't be expected to wait 10, sometimes even 20 years to have the budget before they even get married. (We'll be doing the same) As long as you're honest with guests, do what you want sweetheart - enjoy your day and congratulations on 10 years.

Want ladies and gents to stand with you? Do it.

Want a huge blinged out ballgown? Do it.

Congratulations on 10 years! I think your vow renewal sounds lovely. Etiquette says you shouldn't have a bridal party or wear a ball gown, but personally I think etiquette matters only when it comes to properly hosting your guests. Neither of those affects that, so I think you should do what makes you happy.

Thank you for all of your advice! I am very excited to start planning!!

Don't worry, we won't be asking for any gifts! Just everyone's presence!!

Ten years under your belt? Go for it! Do what you want and what you can afford. As long as your guests know they're coming to a vow renewal, however you want to structure it is fine. You want a wedding party? Fine. You want a ball gown? Fine. Have a blast.

Congrats on 10 years! Do it up and have a blast!

My husband and I are planning a vow renewal for March 2015. It will be 15 years and we're going all out. We have had haters, but who cares. I didn't get my dream wedding and I'm doing what I want minus the pre wedding activities (bachelorette, gifts, etc.).

We just celebrated our 20th wedding anniversary with a vow renewal a week ago and it was beautiful! We had two jr bridesmaids, one maid of honor three matrons of honor, two flower girls, and one Bible bearer. All matrons were escorted; my husband had his best man present as well. Everyone who participated in the wedding party were either family or best friends. The only thing we did not do was register/request gifts but unexpectedly received gifts anyway . We actually had a bigger wedding the first time (100 guests); this time there were only 50 guests but it was more beautiful this time around; we even had a second honeymoon at Myrtle Beach NC (will return to Bahamas next year).

Twenty years is a milestone we wanted to celebrate and WE DID. Everyone was supportive and happy for us; others say they will follow our example. I say all this to say, DO WHATEVER YOU WANT. Don't listen to bitter women, in bitter marriages, who don't want you to enjoy your special time with your hubby.

Etiquette smetiquette. You do your event the way you want to. Even though I do agree on nixing the bachelorette party and registry, the final decision is YOURS. Instead of a bachelorette party, we'll probably do a couples overnight getaway. We'll all arrive together and hang and then in the evening the gals and guys will separate and do their own thing and then we'll all hang out as a group for breakfast and head home. And if anyone wants to give us gifts, we're not going to say no. lol

@I-do. I'm so happy for you that you were able to do it up. Congrats

Nay,

I'm in agreement on keeping the gifts. I know that gifts at a vow renewal are taboo (lol). I actually thought about returning the gifts but after I got to really thinking about it if we were just having a simple anniversary get-together people would have given us gifts anyway; I certainly would have brought an anniversary gift for a couple I adore. Therefore why would I want to prevent someone from expressing their happiness and love in regards to our anniversary. To heck with what people think or say; that's why so many marriages are not making it past the first few years; too many outsiders interfering. Surround yourselves with people who will support your marriage (and renewal). If they don't like it, don't invite them.

I never understand who people are referring to when they say thigs like "people have issues with vow renewals done "this" way... What people?! It doesn't matter how random ppl feel. I am all celebrating love and marriage in a world where not everyone takes marriage seriously. You celebrate 10 years and your husband any way you desire. Those that will attend will know you both well enough to know that you aren't seeking gifts - but they'll probably bring you something anyway b/c a lot of ppl don't like to show up empty handed. My family loves weddings, anniversaries, vow renewals, births, baptisms, graduations, etc. lol. Can you tell we like to celebrate LIFE and the people we live it with. Wear a wedding gown, wear a cocktail dress it's totally up to you. If you and your husband are okay with it that'll resonate with your guests. I love to see people in love!!! I'm excited to celebrate 10 years with my husband, though we still have about 6 years to go. #AlmostThere God bless you both!