Married Millennial
Master March 2019

10 Things to Know About Bringing a Guy to a Wedding

Married Millennial, on August 22, 2019 at 8:31 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 20
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If you and your spouse were newly dating would you bring him/her to a wedding?

According to Cosmopolitan there are 10 things you should know before doing so:
1. Unless you specifically state otherwise, he's going to consider this a date.
2. Getting a plus-one for a wedding is like getting a dog: You better make sure you can handle the responsibility.
3. Don't invite someone you barely know.
4. If you are interested in some other dude at the wedding, go by yourself.
5. Don't expect him to go halfsies on the gift.
6. Establish that he is OK with dancing a lot.
7. Don't even bother asking for a plus-one if you're in the bridal party.
8. DO NOT EVEN TRY TO CATCH THE BOUQUET.
9. Make sure he owns a suit.
10. You owe him one.

Check out the full article here: https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/news/a60396/things-to-know-before-asking-someone-to-a-wedding/

What are your thoughts on these ten tips?

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  • Monique
    Rockstar December 2019
    Monique ·
    Interesting...my sister is bringing her new boyfriend but she is also in the wedding party. He’s already gone to two weddings with her and at both she went to catch the bouquet. It was not a big deal. I would say I dont agree with the you owe them one. If they agree to go or want to go it should not be because they want you to owe them something. I would tell them that I will go alone then.
  • Mrsbdg
    Champion August 2017
    Mrsbdg ·
    I agree with 1-7.

    8. But why? Is it because of the cliche that all penis-having persons are expected to shrivel up or run like there’s wildfire?

    9. It’s worth asking but if y’all are friends or starting to date, I feel it’d be the polite thing to do or to offer to purchase one or rent them one.

    10. ...but why?
  • Kelly
    Master October 2018
    Kelly ·
    I brought my now husband to a wedding I was a bridesmaid in that we had to travel 2,000 miles for after we had been dating for 2 months. All my friends were so excited to meet him. I caught the bouquet that night and we moved in together 4 months later! I find these rules extremely silly. Do what makes you happy and feels right.
  • Andrea
    Devoted May 2020
    Andrea ·
    I had my first date with my fiancé June 3rd, 2017. I brought him to my brothers wedding September 23rd (where I was a bridesmaid) of the same year. So about 3 months in, I already was pretty sure he was the one 💗💗 I let him be in some of our family pictures cause I had a good feeling. I was right! Now we will have pictures of our whole family at my brothers wedding and at my wedding. I made the right call. 😍 However, I have seen it go very wrong as well.
    I also 100% went hard for that bouquet. But that’s me 😂
  • Melle
    Rockstar June 2019
    Melle ·
    I wonder why number eight is there
  • 2d Bride
    Master October 2009
    2d Bride ·

    I don't think of a wedding as a date. To my mind, it's a way to celebrate the love of people I care about. So why would I bring someone who doesn't care about these people?

  • Cher Horowitz
    Rockstar December 2019
    Cher Horowitz ·

    I'd personally feel uncomfortable bringing a new date to a wedding. I'd feel like I'm pressuring them into marriage!

  • Married Millennial
    Master March 2019
    Married Millennial ·
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    I also don't agree with all ten tips but I think a few of them make a lot of sense.

    Do you know if your sister and her boyfriend went half on any wedding gifts?

  • Married Millennial
    Master March 2019
    Married Millennial ·
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    #8 I can understand not catching the bouquet because then it might put unnecessary pressure on a new relationship.

    #9 I also wouldn't ask if the guy had a suit but I would assume that if he agreed to attend a wedding that he has something nice to wear.

    #10 According to the article, "Unless this guy loves going to weddings, he did you the favor. One day, he will call on you, and you must be there. Likely at his cousin's wedding in August or something." I don't necessarily agree but I can understand. For me attending a wedding with your boyfriend/girlfriend is more than just going on a date, it's being seen as a serious couple in front of all the guests.


  • Monique
    Rockstar December 2019
    Monique ·
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    Yes they did!
  • Married Millennial
    Master March 2019
    Married Millennial ·
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    Did you read the article?
  • Married Millennial
    Master March 2019
    Married Millennial ·
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    I'm glad everything worked out for the two of you.
  • Married Millennial
    Master March 2019
    Married Millennial ·
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    Can you elaborate on when you've seen it go very wrong?
  • Married Millennial
    Master March 2019
    Married Millennial ·
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    I also don't see as wedding as a date not would I bring anyone to a wedding that I wasn't serious about.
  • Married Millennial
    Master March 2019
    Married Millennial ·
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    I feel similar to you. Attending a wedding makes you think of marriage so why experience that with someone your not serious about?
  • Married Millennial
    Master March 2019
    Married Millennial ·
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    Wow, he may be a keeper 😉
  • Andrea
    Devoted May 2020
    Andrea ·
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    Sure! I was dating a guy for a few months, he invited me to a wedding out of state, the whole long weekend was a disaster, we ended up getting in a huge fight after the wedding (bride and groom were gone it was the after party at the hotel) I broke up with him and stayed in our room while he drank with his friends. Made for a very awkward flight home! Haha
    I think weddings can be hard on a new relationship, you really need to be on the same page with where the relationships at and what you want from it, and feelings can get hurt, mix in the alcohol...potential recipe for disaster
  • Married Millennial
    Master March 2019
    Married Millennial ·
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    Wow. Thank you for sharing that. I agree that inviting someone new in your life to a wedding can be disastrous.

  • Andrea
    Devoted May 2020
    Andrea ·
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    Agreed. It forces the conversation of “what are we?” And too often both parties answers are not the same 😬
  • Married Millennial
    Master March 2019
    Married Millennial ·
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    You make a great point.

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