1 kosher guest difficult to find external supplier for - help!

My FSIL is the only vegetarian coming to our wedding, we plan to offer her that we'll get her a takeout meal from anywhere in town (I dont mean fast food, like a plated dinner) and either have it delivered or have a family member go pick it up while we do wedding party photos. That way she still gets a full sit down meal, but doesn't have to worry about it being cross contaminated with our non-vegetarian meal.

This is tough. Depending on how strict they are, they may not plan on eating at all since it will still end up on non-kosher plates, silverware, etc. Is it someone you’re close enough with to ask what they typically do at weddings? It sounds like it has to be true kosher rather than just going vegetarian or avoiding meat/dairy so this makes me think they may not plan on eating at all.

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It is my dad’s cousin and she is strict enough that the one time she ate at my parents place, if I recall correctly, she used a plastic plate and cutlery set. I will probably ask her input on what to do, though being so religious and active in the Jewish community, I anticipate that most of the weddings she’s been to have been kosher.

Our reception venue said the best way is to have an external supplier provide packaged meals with instructions, which they will carefully plate, but getting a supplier to agree to a single meal is what is proving difficult! I didn’t even consider if this guest would plan on not eating at all because of the dinnerware not being kosher, hmmm.

Is there a Kosher restaurant nearby that you can call and basically order a to go meal for delivery that day? That may be the easiest way to go. I would maybe also reach out to the cousin and see what they would prefer.

View Quoted Comment Yeah that’s super complicated. I think talking with her and offering a couple options to see what she prefers could work. I understand wanting to host them black-tie but bending the rules may be best here if she would prefer to bring her own meal as opposed whatever kosher-ish catering option could provide (pasta with olive oil or something) and just ask her what works best. Ahh! Good luck!

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If she wasn’t strictly kosher we’d be having her down for a vegetarian meal but she adheres to it strictly from what I’ve seen. I’ll definitely chat to her about it. Here’s hoping she’s easy about this given how few options we have!

I think the best thing to do is ask her how to handle it. Even if you were to find food that was kosher, the plates and utensils still need to be.
If she keeps strict kosher, she knows it is a challenge and probably already has ways to manage it.

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I agree. You're going to want to communicate with her about it. What I see as a rather large issue is that even if you can find a vendor to bring in a kosher meal for a reasonable price (or a restaurant to bring one in) is that if your wedding venue plates it, it would no longer be kosher (or at least that's what I understand).

I agree with those who have said you should speak with this guest directly. I don't think its inappropriate to say "this is what we can accomodate" and then leave it to the guest to decide whether or not to attend or eat.