$1 Dance

It's tacky and it's definitely, not defiantly.

If you arent sure if this is a cultural tradition, then it probably isn't.

Your gut instinct is correct. It's tacky to have people open their wallets at your wedding. The exception is cultural heritage and even then, many people choose not to. It's not a geographical thing either. It's a social circle thing and you should take the opportunity to raise the bar. Don't do it.

I really think it's something the older folks like. I've never danced with anyone I think it's awkward lol. As a bride I don't want to either so it's personal preference!

@Savannah We get it...you think it's okay to do something incredibly rude and tacky if it's "normal" for where you're from. Please stop spewing the ridiculousness.

For the record: location does not quash etiquette.

OP I appreciate you listening to advice and not getting offended. Stick around!

Thanks but I think I'll continue.

I actually feel weird about having one, but it's a Polish tradition for my FH family.. His mom is insisting even though I'm hesitant!

I feel a blizzard coming...not from an OP this time.

So, I see where all you ladies are coming from. My FH has never heard of a Money dance but my side of the family is expecting one. Back in my country everyone has a money dance. It's not considered tacky or rude. We really haven't decided if we should have one, but I know that if we don't my family will be mad at me and I won't hear the end of it the whole night.

This is not what your reception should look like.

@angela my grandparents are from Poland and wanted me to have a polish wedding ( they are like 3 days long!) is there a way to compromise like skip the dollar dance but let FMIL choose another tradition that she would like to incorporate?

I like that OP hasn't gone all "BUT IT'S MY DAY"! OP - Lurk a little and you'll get a lot from these forums.

It's not an area thing, it's a rude thing.

I'm also from Hicktown, Michigan and it's still tacky and rude there. Your guests are coming, some are even traveling from far away to attend your wedding. Most of them are bringing you gifts. Some of them even gave you shower gifts. It's inappropriate for them to ask to pay for another thing, especially considering that your reception is their thank you.

Dollar dances are also incredibly boring for the guests sitting at the tables waiting and waiting for them to be over. It really kills the partying mood.

It's tacky as fuck. Don't.

I have never seen this at a wedding but it's a big Hell No for me. So stupid.

It's common where FH is from, but one of my bridezilla moments was putting my foot down on that tradition.

If they want to pay someone to dance, they can go to a strip club.

You know who else dances for dollars?

@Sarah, the moment that you invite guests to your wedding, it is not your day anymore. If you want to have a wedding that you can do whatever you want at, elope.