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We are getting married in August 2019. The wedding coordinator at my church said the first/next step would be to meet with the pastor and that we'll have a few sessions with them prior to the wedding. She didn't say *when* we should do the initial...

Wondering if anybody has gotten married in a church (i.e. bride's church) but brought in a different pastor (i.e. groom's pastor) to officiate their wedding? Is that weird or disrespectful? We are Lutheran.