Activity for Carolyn

How involved is everyone's future mother in laws in the planning and decision making? I'm having serious issues with my FMIL and we are not getting along well. She has made planning more stressful than it needs to be.

I am torn on whether or not to hire a videographer for my wedding. I am told by my mom and mother-in-law that I'll want a video so I can look back at it someday, especially when I'm older. However, they are both sentimental people... I on the other...