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I'm going to look at two venue options this week, and I don't know what to ask, is there an questions that I could be asking? Please help!

Right now my spouse and I are having some issues deciding, there are some great all inclusive hotels that do weddings, and renting the ball rooms aren't a bad price they range from about 500-1000$, but then the food costs and alcohol start...

We don't have big dancers in our families, was wondering if there are any cool and interesting games we can play to keep people entertained throughout the night? Please no drinking games! Please help!