Activity for Future Mrs. Riley

I'm so confused about who is supposed to receive a tip at my upcoming wedding We rented a party bus $1600 Our photographer is $4000 she own her business but is also a former neighbor Her parents and her brother are attending the wedding...

Any suggestions for must sees or don't bother in this area? Any particular vineyards better than others? Suggestions for mid priced places to stay... Don't need crazy expensive accommodations but would splurge for maybe 2 nights out of 10

My venue will serve wine at the tables if we want but that is part of an upgrade which includes unlimited appetizers instead of just 5 per person served ( in other words if we invite 200 people they will prepare 1000 appetizers and when they are...