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Ceremony for the modern world

Custom-designed wedding & commitment ceremonies for the intentional couple.

  • Custom ceremony design and legal officiation
  • Personalized ceremony script *Required in-person meeting prior to wedding day.
  • Pre-marital guidance and intention-setting sessions
  • Custom vow development and “Promises Box”
  • Honored to design and guide non-religious, religious, & interfaith ceremonies for couples of all genders and sexual orientations.

Be radically authentic on your wedding day.

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How to Human Better - Jennifer Nicolaisen is a personal wedding officiant for couples in the Asheville, NC area. This officiant, Jennifer Nicolaisen, enjoys spending time with couples before the wedding day, so as to build a relationship with them and understand their personalities and dynamic. She then helps couples design a carefully customized ceremony so that their special day reflects the true love they share. Based out of Asheville, North Carolina, How to Human Better - Jennifer Nicolaisen can also travel to officiate weddings across North Carolina, including service to cities such as Raleigh and Charlotte.

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This officiant focuses on real and deliberate wedding ceremonies for couples. Rather than having a wedding for the social normalcy of it, Nicolaisen helps couples focus on their growth together and love for one another during this special and intimate new beginning. She officiates ceremonies anywhere from under 30 minutes to around 60 minutes long. She can speak English, French, Spanish, or Chinese for a couple’s wedding day. She has her license in 39 United States and Washington, D.C. This includes all of the nearby states such as Maryland, Virginia, West Virginia, Delaware, North Carolina, South Carolina, and others. As a licensed wedding officiant, Jennifer Nicolaisen helps couples with counseling and customized vows. She works with couples of any religion to officiate:

  • Civil unions
  • Interfaith ceremonies
  • Non-religious ceremonies
  • Rehearsals
  • Single-religion ceremonies
  • Vow renewals
  • LGBTQ+-owned
  • Woman-owned
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Frequently asked questions

What is the typical price for your wedding services?

$985

Which of the following are included in the price?

Ceremony Rehearsal
Premarital Counseling

What is the starting price for your wedding services?

$630

Does starting price include the ceremony rehearsal?

Yes

What is the starting price for pre-marital counseling (per session)?

$80

What types of weddings and events do you provide services for?

Non-religious
Interfaith
Ceremony Rehearsal
Vow Renewal
Civil Union

What services do you provide?

Premarital Counseling
Bilingual

What religious affiliations do you serve?

Agnostic
Anglican
Baha'i Faith
Baptist
Buddhist
Catholic
Earth-Based
Episcopalian
Evangelical
Hindu
Islam
Jainism
Jewish
Lutheran
Methodist
Mormon
No Denomination
Orthodox Christian
Pagan
Presbyterian
Quaker
Shinto
Sikhism
Taoist
Unitarian

On average, how long are wedding ceremonies you officiate?

Less than 30 mins.
30-60 mins.

In which states are you licensed?

AL
AK
AZ
CA
CO
CT
DE
DC
FL
GA
ID
IL
IN
IA
KS
KY
ME
MD
MI
MS
MO
NE
NJ
NM
NC
ND
OR
PA
RI
SC
SD
TN
TX
UT
VA
WA
WV
WI
WY

What languages do you speak?

Chinese
English
French
Spanish
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Jenny S. Sent on 03/06/2023
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A beautiful human being

Where do I begin to describe the amazing person that Jennifer is? In our wedding research, we knew we wanted an officiant who was open-minded, did non-religious ceremonies and made us feel even closer to one another than we already were. When I found Jennifer and "How to Human Better" I knew immediately she was the one. The name says it all...it encompasses everything my husband and I I try to be each and every day- a little better for ourselves and others. From start to finish, Jennifer was there with us, guiding us, nurturing our love. Our ore-wedding day meetings were some of our favorite days. She would guide us in deep breathing and meditation, which was a life saver come wedding day. It's true what they say...the wedding day goes by in the blink of an eye, but with Jennifer guiding the ceremony that day, I felt so present in the moment. I can still remember details that would probably otherwise be forgotten.
She is one of the kindest people we know and hope to never lose touch!
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Katherine Sent on 10/19/2023
5 out of 5 rating

Incredible, life-changing experience!

We simply cannot recommend Jennifer enough and are so grateful for everything she did to make our wedding dreams come true! In addition to creating a warm, intentional working environment, Jennifer also took the time to get to know us as a couple and create a completely personalized ceremony that was EXACTLY what we were looking for. She was flexible with our needs (& scheduling!) and fostered such a collaborative, supportive relationship throughout the planning process. Our wedding was less than a week ago and we've already had multiple guests & vendors reach out to us saying what an incredible, moving experience Jennifer provided! She is truly a gift to the industry and goes above & beyond what officiating entails!
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Stephanie S. Sent on 12/29/2020
5 out of 5 rating

The most lovely officiant and person

Jennifer is incredible. We chose to elope because we wanted an intimate celebration that allowed us the space to fully focus on our unique relationship and the love we share. Jennifer brought this vision to life in the most wonderful way. We initially met less than 1 month before the wedding, yet by the end, she felt like a close friend. She has a knack for “seeing” people. She quickly gained an understanding of our personalities, values, and who we are as a couple and ultimately weaved it all into a ceremony that was heartfelt, personal, and full of thoughtful details. I also can’t say enough good things about the pre-ceremony grounding session. It helped ease my worries/anxieties, sparked positive vibes, and enabled us to fully immerse ourselves in all the experiences of the day. I am so grateful that fate led us to Jennifer. There are no words for how much I appreciate the work and care she put into creating the perfect day for us and the emotional support she provided from beginning to end.
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Jennifer Nicolaisen
Jennifer Nicolaisen
Minister and Guide

AMM Minister ID: 472816

Jennifer (they/them or she/her) is a Queer human who grew up in the greater suburbs of London, England, and who has since settled in the Appalachian mountains of Western North Carolina in the USA. Their priorities include sharing time with their friends and partners, adventuring in the forest, dancing as often as possible, and collecting beautiful things (most notably, crystals and rocks of all kinds). They live in a small intentional community in Asheville, NC where they are a student of foraging, permaculture, and sustainable living.

Jennifer became ordained as a minister in 2017 in order to facilitate their best friend’s wedding, by request. It went so well that they decided to launch the How To Human Better brand to meet more clients interested in non-traditional but highly intentional ceremony design for their weddings. The business soon became a much-needed basis of steady income to support Jennifer as they co-founded SeekHealing, a grassroots non-profit that facilitates meaningful human connection and healthy social experiences in order to address the loneliness epidemic and reduce deaths of despair.

Since then, Jennifer has facilitated over 50 weddings and supported dozens of couples opening a new paradigm for consciously constructing their relationships with each other. They embody a deep knowledge and mastery of space-holding techniques, facilitating relational processes, and crafting rituals that support healing, personal development and community cohesion. The Listening Training and Social Health Facilitation Training courses that they designed in collaboration with their partners Dr. Gabor Mate, Dr. Rachel Wurzman, and Sara Ness, have now trained thousands of people in a new paradigm of listening and conscious relationship; and have certified over 100 “Social Health Professionals” who are revolutionizing the mental health industry.

Jennifer graduated with a bachelor's degree in Linguistics from the University of North Carolina - Chapel Hill and speaks English, French, Spanish, and Mandarin Chinese with varying degrees of proficiency. Jennifer identifies as non-binary, pansexual, multiamorous and ethically non-monogamous; and is passionate about becoming a better human being, regardless of the labels that may apply.

Juda Olson
Juda Olson
Business Partner and Manager

Hello, I'm Juda!

I'm a business partner and manager here at How to Human Better. I handle online communications, collaborations, scheduling, and other details so Jennifer can be with you with all their energy and focus when it really matters.

I was raised in TN and moved here in 2023 to follow my passions in community and social health, caring for myself in a sustainable way in both my body and mind, and supporting our society with moving forward in a meaningful way.

I'm happy so answer any questions you may have, feel free to reach out to me via my email of business number:

Juda@howtohumanbetter.com

828-283-0596

With love and light,

Juda

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